Aug. 26, 2024

Redefining Success through Family Sailing and Personal Happiness with Sean Hamill

Redefining Success through Family Sailing and Personal Happiness with Sean Hamill

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What if chasing corporate success left you feeling empty and disconnected from your family? Join us on Keep Hope Alive as we welcome Sean Hamill, the captivating author of "Without a Compass." Sean opens up about his journey from an idyllic dream of a simple beachside life to becoming ensnared in the corporate grind. He shares the pivotal moment that compelled him to reassess his definition of success, emphasizing the irreplaceable value of personal happiness and quality family time over financial gain.

Embark on a heartwarming family sailing adventure where clarity and peace replaced conventional pressures. When faced with his son's uncertainty about the future, a father chose an unconventional path: a sailing expedition instead of the typical rush to college. Learn about their meticulous preparations, the challenges they overcame, and the serenity they found on the water. This journey not only united the family, including grandparents and their beloved dogs, but also underscored the healing power of nature and the joy of living in the moment.

Explore the mesmerizing world beneath the waves and discover how marine life encounters can transform one's mental health. From the spine-tingling sight of a breaching whale to the tranquil experience of snorkeling with sea turtles, the ocean's wonders offer a unique blend of excitement and tranquility. We also delve into the importance of defining dreams, overcoming mental health obstacles, and living intentionally. Listen to inspiring stories of resilience, creativity, and the relentless pursuit of a fulfilling life, whether it’s through writing, sailing, or simply cherishing family memories.

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Chapters

00:02 - Rediscovery Through Sailing Adventure

08:51 - Family Sailing Adventure and Life Changes

22:39 - Ocean Adventures and Mental Health

32:54 - Defining Dreams and Overcoming Obstacles

40:59 - Journey of Transformation and Reflection

47:47 - Dreams of Sailing and Adventure

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Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive.

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We have a great show for you today.

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I got Mr Sean Hamill here with us and he is the author Without a Compass and we're going to dive literally dive into his whole career and how he got there.

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So welcome.

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I'm so happy to have you on Keep Hope Alive, and it looks like a nice sunny day where you are.

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I see the beautiful glow coming in.

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So really quick, sean, before we get started, I got a quick question for you how many weddings have you been to, let's say, in the past 20 years?

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into, let's say, in the past 20 years.

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I'm going to speculate that it's probably been about 15 to 20 weddings.

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Wow, it sounds like you might be in the industry somehow.

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But that's cool, I mean.

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So I want to go into our first sponsor.

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They're called lifeonrecordcom, and I have another question.

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So let's say you're at a wedding, you're going into the ceremony part.

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Usually there's something to sign to let the bride and groom know you were there.

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What are you signing?

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Let's see, I would be signing the guest book, but I usually get my wife to do it because I'm awkward at signing the right thing and saying the right thing.

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But yeah, the guest book is definitely.

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Yes, so that's correct.

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So what Life on Record is?

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Instead of that guest book, they bring out a vintage rotary phone so your guests can go up to the phone, pick it up and be like congratulations, you two, we're so happy for you.

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You make a cute couple.

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And then the next person picks up the phone and leaves a message too.

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It's about time.

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Put a ring on her finger, she's a catch, whatever the message may be and I always use weddings, but this can go for any event.

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So right next to the phone, they put out a QR code too.

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So if you're in line going oh, this is the long line, you can take out your personal cell phone and scan the QR code and just do the message right over your phone too.

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So that's great.

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Now I call this the gift of voice.

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So that's great.

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Now I call this the gift of voice.

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So all these messages come in and you have a choice.

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You can have it burned on a 12-inch vinyl record or a keepsake speaker, which is really cool.

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So it could be like a year later you're sitting back supposed to be eating that anniversary cake piece, right, and then you can pop in and hear all your friends and family wishing you well.

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Now their plans start now mark my words.

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You get the phone number for a year and their plans start at $99, which is a steal of a deal.

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I love it and I always say for the wedding part make sure to call right in before the year anniversary too and just say you know what?

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Happy anniversary guys.

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You know we're here calling you so you get more messages and stuff and make them fun and creative.

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But whatever you do, have fun with this new concept.

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To find out more information about them, go to wwwlifeonrecordcom.

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All right, well, I know we were talking about water early and we're both kind of like right in the deep water, but I keep saying let's dive in.

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So who is?

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Sean Hamill in.

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So who is Sean Hamill?

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So Sean Hamill today is a lot different than the Sean Hamill of of when my story first started, or the, you know, I guess, as a teen growing up in my formative years.

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Um, back then I was saying that I was going to to, you know, live a simple life and I was going to sell t-shirts on the beach.

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It was the phrase I used to always use and really what I was talking about it was just going to, I was just going to live life by my, my way, my, my rules.

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And, um, fast forward, you know, a few years and and I, I went to college and you know I always called the go to school, then get a job, work nine to five to 65.

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And I got trapped in that whole loop that society throws us into.

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Where, you know, you get out of school, you're staring life in the face and you're going okay, what am I going to be when I grow up, so to speak?

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And I completely forgot about this dream I had of just living a simple life.

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And all of a sudden long story short within the space of about six or seven months, I went from being this dreamer self that was going to live a really simple, carefree life, to having a child on the way and getting married, and I got really serious and I completely forgot.

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In my book I talked about the three personas, and they're the dreamer self, the responsible self, and then the head shaker.

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And my dreamer self completely disappeared and I just became this responsible self that felt like I had to get you know, a job and I had to become responsible, I had to become a provider, I had to do all these things that society teaches you to do and all of a sudden I felt like I was on a freight train and I couldn't stop it Right.

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And next thing you know, I was.

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I was, you know, rising up through the corporate world and you know, I was had these fancy titles and I was traveling all the time.

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I was doing about 70 to 100 nights a year in a hotel room.

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I had a wife at home that I really loved and I really missed a lot, and kids that I loved and missed, and I remember being on a plane and thinking to myself what am I doing?

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Is this the life that I dreamt of?

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I mean it was.

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It was taking care of me financially and it was giving me rewards that way, but you know, really, what meant most to me in life was was quality time, and quality time wasn't spent alone in a hotel room, it wasn't spent on an airplane all the time, you know, traveling through airports all the time.

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And so I went through this, this, you know, kind of rediscovery, I guess, and you know it.

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It was a serious questioning of what really matters most in life.

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And so then, you know, as I went through that, I remember seeing, you know, we were in a holding pattern over Florida.

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We were coming into Tampa Bay and our flight was delayed getting out of Toronto and so, as a result, they had to slot us into a spot to get into the airport, and so we were in a holding pattern for about a half an hour, I think it was, and we did about three or four loops around tampa bay.

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You know the bay area and I remember looking down and seeing all these boats floating around.

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And it was like, you know, I grew up on on, you know, in the, in the summer times, I would get my little day sailor and I would go and sail lakes all day long.

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And all of a sudden, now I'm in, I'm questioning life and and if I'm really doing what matters most to me.

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And now I'm seeing these boats floating around below me and people are, you know, living on these boats, or you know, living on these boats, and all of a sudden it put me through this reflection on.

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That's what I dreamt of when I was a kid and a teen and what I used to always tell my dad that I was going to do when I grew up, and it used to drive him crazy because he was such a straight-laced man and you know it.

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Just, it seems so metaphorical, but at the same time, the timing was so perfect and you know, and so I had.

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You know, that's what the book is all about is discovery.

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We went through, we ended up, you know, eventually I ended up quitting the corporate world and, long story short, we went sailing.

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And so we went sailing for about 12 months and, you know, we realized that life that I dreamt of.

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And, you know, we went to a bunch of adventures beyond that.

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But that kind of brings me up to now as to who is Sean Hamill.

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Oh wow.

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So a whole year on a boat.

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So where did you start and where did you end up?

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So it's actually kind of funny.

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So we had a boat when I finally did quit the corporate world.

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We had a boat up in north of Toronto and my son had just graduated from high school and he didn't know what he wanted to be in life and the last thing I wanted to do is see him make a rash decision and fall into the wrong spot.

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So I said to him I said, okay, well, we're going to go sailing.

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And I said this is going to be your first year of college.

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You're going to go sailing with us and you're going to get life experience instead of, you know, going to the wrong program in college or whatever you're going to do.

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He actually was very reluctant at first.

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I had to convince him and I thought what kid that age would you know?

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But he was.

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He was exactly what, like many of us do is is he thought he had to just jump in and realize what he had to become right away, like society teaches us Right, and so, so, yeah.

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So, long story short, he eventually came around and he said he was going to bring his buddy with him.

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So the boat we had was too small.

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So we said, okay, well, we'll sell that boat, and then we'll get a bigger boat.

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And we shopped around for a while and we had all this by the fall of 2014.

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And we knew that if we set a timeline, that we would have to live to that timeline.

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But all of a sudden, the walls were closing in.

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The dates are getting closer.

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We had two properties and we wanted to sell at least one.

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We wanted to sell that boat so we could get another boat.

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And we're going through all this and we're getting closer and closer to our deadline.

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And it got to a point where we said if it doesn't happen by this day, then that's it.

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We're going to have to cancel and do it another year.

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And it was the thursday of that.

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Our deadline was a saturday, and it was a thursday of that that week and all of a sudden, bang, bang, bang.

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We sold two properties and the boat, all pretty much within 24 hours of each other so now we went from having a house, having an investment property, having a boat, to having nowhere to live within a month and a half, and so, long story short, we ended up renting an rv.

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We asked um, you know, we knew that when we, when we were done, we found the boat, we were going to have to get the RV back to Toronto.

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So we asked my parents and my wife's parents if they would be interested in coming with us so that they could take the RV back to Toronto.

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And both parents agreed to do it.

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So there was me, my wife, my son, our two Alaskan Malamute dogs which were, you know, 60 and 90 pounds, and then four parents, sets of parents, my mom, dad, my wife's mom and dad.

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So seven people and two Alaskan Malamutes living in a 30 foot RV.

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For a year.

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No, for the two weeks we went what we did is we?

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Oh, okay, I was like whoa, that's tight net.

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Yeah, no, no.

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We loaded all of the stuff we needed to go boating with into the back of the RV and then we loaded the seven people and two dogs in and said, okay, we'll go down to Annapolis, maryland, and find a boat.

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And so we remember when we went across the border, the border guard was we.

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He was asking us what we're doing and as soon as I told him that we were going to go sailing, his face lit up.

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He had tons of questions and then he came around and looked inside the RV, saw all the people and the two dogs were sitting right there and he walked back around and very quietly just handed me all of our passports and said good luck, right.

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It was like he was astonished that we were trying to do this with that many people and in the boat.

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We ended up living in the rv for about two weeks.

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We found a boat within a week or so.

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The boat needed some renovations, but as soon as we took possession of the boat, my wife and I both moved on to the boat to create some space in the rv and, uh yeah, after another week we said goodbye to the parents.

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They took the the rv back to toronto and then my wife and my son and myself and the dogs you know got on the boat and we started sailing south.

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Oh, my goodness.

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Okay, so the dogs were.

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I was at the lake yesterday and just sitting there it was so peaceful and I told my friend I go these boats pulling in, I just like the sound of the water hitting the boat because it's like a slosh I go, I could probably really relax to that.

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But just being there in nature and I bet that was very soul searching for all of y'all.

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But also your mind is probably creating all of these new ideas too of what you want to accomplish in life.

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Am I right?

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oh yeah, I mean, that's the thing is there's there's no, no clearer way to think than when you're sitting on a boat in a, in a quiet anchorage, away from society and, yeah, like you say, the boat's lapping against or the sorry, the water is lapping against the side of the boat and you know it's just.

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It's mind blowing how clear your mind can become in that moment.

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So wait, did you have?

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There's no cell service, right?

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So was there no technology on your trip?

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Yeah, generally, you know, we weren't very long without cell service.

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So when we sailed we sailed.

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There's a body of water called the Intercoastal Waterway.

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So Intercoastal Waterway was designed back in the 1800s to create a safe passage north-south along the Us east coast so that if there were storms on the atlantic ships could still carry goods safely in the inland right.

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And so, yeah, so we generally always had, you know, cell service.

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There were times I remember there was one place we were like 20 minutes south of myrtle beach but we were in this anchorage that was.

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You've ever had that moment when it's so quiet you can hear your ears ringing you know there's nothing else and we had an anchorage like that and every once in a while we were in a flight path to Myrtle Beach.

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So every once in a while a plane would go over our heads and it would remind us that society was near us.

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But in that moment you would have never guessed that we were anywhere close to society.

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And you know, there was moments like that where we didn't have cell service, and it was refreshing.

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But generally speaking.

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That was the beauty of it is we were close to society, but we could always escape society.

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Yeah, so how many storms did you hit?

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Actually, we went down all the way to the Florida Keys and we were on our way back up before we hit our first storm, and you know before that we were always careful we would be tucked in someplace if there was a storm coming.

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But yeah, on that day we got complacent.

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Long story short, we had gone around to the west coast of Florida.

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We had gone around to the west coast of Florida and there's a water body or a waterway called the Okeechobee Waterway.

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That goes right across the middle of Florida, and the one hassle with the Okeechobee Waterway is there's a train bridge that only rises up to 49 feet, and our mass was 52 feet.

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So if you know geometry, there's not an easy way to get under that bridge.

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So we had to actually get a guy named Billy the Tipper who came and put water barrels on the side of our boat and filled the water barrels up until the boat, to the point where the boat actually tips over enough.

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So now it gets underneath of that bridge.

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Billy was a really difficult guy to get a hold of, and so I was very stressed out about whether he was actually going to show up that day to do it, because we were stuck in the middle of nowhere between the lock wall and the bridge.

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We didn't have a lot of supplies, you know.

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I think we only had about two days left of beer, and for sailors that's.

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that's panic time, um, but yeah, I was going to ask you about groceries.

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I mean, you're important to probably go and see some sites right along the way.

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So, able to go to a restaurant and everything and get more groceries and I know you had to.

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It takes gas right yeah, in the boat yeah, so you had to fill up.

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Yeah, yes, it took a lot of planning, you know, and at that spot I'm talking about, we had two alaska malamutes and they never learned to relieve themselves on the boat, which, you know, on the deck.

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That's what sailors often do is, if they can't get to shore, the dogs have to learn to do that they.

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They never learned that, and here we were in a waterway that was known to have alligators in it, right, and so I remember there was a boat, um, a boat ramp, uh, where in the little area that we were stuck in.

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So my son had to take the dogs over to the boat ramp in our inflatable dinghy, um, and he just pushed the boat against the boat ramp, let the dogs jump out.

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I said, stay in the boat, and if an alligator does come, then you know, get the dogs back in.

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And he said, but don't get out of the boat.

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And so that's kind of the decisions we were faced with in in in that moment, right, but yes, so billy the tipper did come, he got us tipped over enough that we got under that bridge, and after that we were just so relieved that, you know this, this obstacle that was in our way is now out of our way, and, and it was a beautiful day and we just let our guard down, right yeah, and we get to the end of this waterway and we get back to the intercoastal waterway and we had about an hour left and two hours left to get to our destination for that night and all of a sudden a big storm dropped right on top of us and I panicked.

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I'm sitting there and I'm barking orders to my wife and to my son get this, find that.

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And we're trying to figure out where there's a safe spot around us.

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And up until then we always tracked where we were, we always knew exactly what was around us, and so on.

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We let our guard down and we didn't have any of that information.

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And so all of a sudden, we had to figure all this out and it was our first storm and we couldn't even see the front of the boat.

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It was raining that hard right oh, wow and uh, and then all of a sudden you know you're.

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You know, when you start to think rationally again, then you start to think practical solutions and I realized that the, the gps system that I had right in front of me showed me where I was relative to the edges of the waterway.

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It showed me where the bridges were.

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The only thing I couldn't see is if there was other boats out there around me.

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So we just slowed right down to the point where if we happened to bump into anything, it was going to be pretty much inconsequential.

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Anything, it was going to be pretty much inconsequential.

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Just kept enough speed so that we could keep, you know, the the weather from overtaking us and driving us into something.

00:20:32.001 --> 00:20:38.794
And then we just rode it out until the, until the storm stopped right and yeah, yeah, I was.

00:20:40.261 --> 00:20:44.046
I was like, where did they put the bathrooms on the boats?

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I was telling my friend that yesterday, because I mean, when you're just at a lake and not the ocean, you don't?

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Well, everybody seems like in Texas they have a big boat, you know it's like.

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But I was like my friend, she goes, they just go in the lake.

00:21:02.211 --> 00:21:06.569
I was like, oh, typical bathroom.

00:21:06.589 --> 00:21:13.853
Then Our boat was a three bedroom, two bathroom, so we were good there.

00:21:15.240 --> 00:21:17.709
Oh, wow, okay, Gotcha.

00:21:17.709 --> 00:21:21.359
Yeah, it's like I want to see this picture of the boat all of a sudden.

00:21:21.359 --> 00:21:26.556
So what kind of like I mean you, you've traveled so far.

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You had to see, probably, sharks.

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What other things did you see along the way?

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I remember distinctly the first time that we saw a dolphin, and my wife loves dolphins um, leanne is my wife and dolphins, just they make her day.

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We were in Beaufort, north Carolina, and we were just rounding a corner, had just gone underneath the bridge and if we had gone straight we would have gone out to the ocean.

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We rounded the corner to follow the intercoastal waterway and there was a dolphin right there and the glow, the excitement, the giddiness on my wife's face, my wife's reaction, made the whole trip worthwhile.

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You know, just to see her get that excited about anything was just.

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It lit up my world.

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And you know we got to to the florida keys.

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We had a pod of dolphins that were following with us and the dogs used to always chase around the boat to try and go to wherever the dolphins were.

00:22:30.991 --> 00:22:38.108
It's still that, many miles after we saw our first dolphin, it was still just so fun to see the dolphins.

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And then the other thing that occurs to me is when we were coming back north, we were out on the Atlantic.

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The other thing that occurs to me is when we were coming back north, we were out on the Atlantic and we were about probably four miles out from shore and we?

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I just caught out of the corner of my eye, a small whale.

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I saw just as it was yeah, it was, it was breaching, and so I just saw its back and then its tail flap up in the air.

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It was probably close enough that if I had noticed it as soon as it did it, I probably could have reached over the side of the boat and touched it.

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You know, it was that close so on the one hand it could have been dangerous, but it wasn't.

00:23:18.348 --> 00:23:26.388
It didn't turn out that way and, yeah, it was just amazing to have something that big and powerful and be that close to you, you know.

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That is cool.

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You see, my thing is sea turtles.

00:23:29.665 --> 00:23:32.133
I would want to see so many sea turtles.

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I've seen many since then, but we didn't see any on that trip.

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Wow, okay, they all go with the current.

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Maybe they're just all underwater, I don't know.

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I am so fascinated with them.

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And then tortoises I've been following on Facebook because in my life I feel like I want a tortoise as a pet but I have nowhere to keep it and I was like, oh man, but they are the coolest and they're like they live.

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So long, nadine, I go.

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I know I would have to write it in my will.

00:24:12.404 --> 00:24:13.166
Who wants it?

00:24:13.166 --> 00:24:15.281
And they probably don't want it.

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Yeah.

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I was snorkeling in Mexico when we did our RV trip and I had my wife's niece snorkeling with me and I remember her tapping me in the shoulder and pointing for me to turn around.

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And I turned around and within four feet of me was a huge sea turtle, you know, from the top of its head to the bottom of its legs it was probably almost as tall as me and it was just swimming up behind me.

00:24:44.159 --> 00:24:50.470
You know, it was just something that I look back at now and think why wasn't I scared?

00:24:50.470 --> 00:24:55.039
But it was just so tranquil in the moment, right, Just no threat at all.

00:24:55.121 --> 00:24:55.803
It was amazing.

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See, I think I'd be too.

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You don't like deep water, but yeah, I'd be too scared to snorkel.

00:25:04.545 --> 00:25:09.298
Like deep water, but yeah, I'd be too scared to snorkel.

00:25:09.298 --> 00:25:12.825
But I'm a photographer and I've always wanted to do pictures underwater and I'm like, okay, not in the ocean.

00:25:12.825 --> 00:25:17.616
I think the closest thing I would do is a pool with dogs.

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You throw the ball right over me and when the dog jumps for the ball, you throw the ball right over me.

00:25:22.019 --> 00:25:28.203
And when the dog jumps for the ball, when they hit the water, their face smiles.

00:25:28.203 --> 00:25:30.704
It's the coolest thing.

00:25:30.724 --> 00:25:35.528
I was like that is as far as I'll go, but I feel like I've always.

00:25:35.528 --> 00:25:40.431
When I'm at the aquarium, I love taking pictures of jellyfish.

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I'm just like they're so pretty and I'm like, yeah, I just don't want to see that in real life.

00:25:45.715 --> 00:25:54.584
And then I'll probably have a panic attack right underwater seeing anything and I'm like, yeah, let's leave that to the professionals, you know.

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So, yeah, but definitely Just really quick.

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So let's get right back with you, because this is a journey I want to know.

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So you're on this trip.

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And when did you decide?

00:30:55.083 --> 00:30:57.147
Hey, I'm going to write a book.

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I think the biggest thing is is I had tons of people that were coming up to me and saying I wish I could do what you guys are doing right.

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So it was.

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It was three or four years that we we went from adventure to adventure to adventure and people were sort of living vicariously through us and it really kind of hurt me, I guess, when people were saying I wish I could do what you were doing.

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You know that in the lead in that you just you know you, when you're talking about the snap bands, it's, it's a great lead in because they say you go from when, when you're stressed, you go.

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If you don't deal with the stress, then eventually leads to anxiety, and if you don't lead to deal with the anxiety, it leads to depression.

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Right now I'm not a psychologist or anything like that, but I've got two kids that have ad add and adhd, and so I've been exposed to it and I my first wife had some some serious mental health issue challenges that she episodes, that she went through.

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So I've had the exposure to it.

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That's about.

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All I know is that that that cycle from stress to anxiety to depression, and so it's become made me very aware of it right and so um, now I apologize, I've lost my thought of where I was going with that, but what was the question?

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Again, I did have a point.

00:32:21.599 --> 00:32:23.561
Yeah, I'm getting older, I'm 46.

00:32:23.561 --> 00:32:24.782
But I'm like, what did I say?

00:32:24.782 --> 00:32:32.330
I've been calling mine squirrel moments, so no, we were just talking about what made you decide to write the book.

00:32:32.750 --> 00:32:33.491
Yeah, that's what it was.

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And you said, people coming are coming up and saying I wish you could do what I do and do what you guys are doing, and it's like you can do anything you want in life.

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You just need you need to have a clear vision of what you want.

00:32:58.467 --> 00:33:08.040
And that's the first challenge that people have is you ask a person if you won the lottery, what would you do with the, with the, your, your newfound freedom Cause?

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Then really, money gives freedom, right.

00:33:09.984 --> 00:33:12.557
And you just ask them what they would do with that.

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And most people they they point to you know superficial things.

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They buy a new car, they pay off their mortgage, or you know, sometimes they'll go as far as say they take a trip.

00:33:25.240 --> 00:33:28.221
But then you ask, okay, they'll go as far as say they take a trip, but then you ask, ok, where would your trip be?

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Tell me about it.

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And they can't fill in the picture.

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So the first thing is is daring to dream.

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You know, figure out what you dream of in life.

00:33:37.248 --> 00:33:40.810
And I was on that plane looking down at the sailboats below me.

00:33:40.810 --> 00:33:43.452
That's when I started to fill in my picture.

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I wanted to get back to living by the sea.

00:33:45.916 --> 00:33:47.922
Like I said I was going to do when I was a teen, right?

00:33:48.002 --> 00:33:55.506
So that's the first thing is I wanted to write about okay, so what's your first step in living your own dream?

00:33:55.506 --> 00:33:57.355
It's defining the dream.

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Then the next step is okay.

00:34:00.160 --> 00:34:02.624
So how do you put a plan together?

00:34:02.624 --> 00:34:09.001
Right, you know I talk a lot about that in the book is what does your plan have to look like?

00:34:09.001 --> 00:34:10.184
What does it include?

00:34:10.184 --> 00:34:16.485
And then the next thing is okay, so what obstacles are you going to encounter, right?

00:34:16.826 --> 00:34:18.978
Well, you know, you've got conditioned beliefs.

00:34:18.978 --> 00:34:21.925
We're all conditioned to believe that we have to live a safe life.

00:34:21.925 --> 00:34:33.782
We have to go to school, get a job, work nine to five to 65, and then hope that we're going to get at least a few good years of retirement before we're too old to do something like going sailing or whatever.

00:34:33.782 --> 00:34:38.318
Yeah, so you've got to get past that conditioned belief.

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You've got to allow yourself to say it's okay to be selfish if you will, right?

00:34:45.989 --> 00:34:49.344
So I talk about the three pillars of a balanced life.

00:34:49.344 --> 00:34:55.307
The three pillars are your self pillar, your family and community pillar and your career pillar.

00:34:56.016 --> 00:35:00.264
And the problem is that most of us think that our career pillar is the foundation.

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Right?

00:35:00.384 --> 00:35:02.608
Is the foundation right?

00:35:02.608 --> 00:35:09.704
If you don't serve your career pillar with everything you've got, then how can you look after your family and yourself?

00:35:09.704 --> 00:35:13.943
I call that out, I say that that's completely backwards.

00:35:13.943 --> 00:35:22.483
If you don't look after your self-pillar first, how can you show up for your family and for your career, right?

00:35:23.056 --> 00:35:25.083
So that's getting back to the mental health piece.

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You've got to do everything you can to make sure you build a healthy self, because your healthy self is the foundation for everything else.

00:35:32.141 --> 00:35:34.710
And so why did I write the book?

00:35:34.710 --> 00:35:37.998
I wanted to make sure people start having these discussions.

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You know, when my first wife, when you know she went through a, you know she had a miscarriage and then she went through into a spiral that led her into very traumatic mental health situation and we're still friends, and so I can, and she's more than happy with me talking openly about it, because that's what we did.

00:36:01.007 --> 00:36:02.360
We talked openly about it.

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When friends were saying why is she in the hospital, we talked openly about why she was in the hospital.

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And that enabled people to have an open and healthy conversation with her.

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There wasn't this whispering going on about what's going on.

00:36:15.824 --> 00:36:28.909
It was open and it was healthy for her Right, and so that's the thing I wanted to do is I wanted to write a book that not only just talks about that, but talks about everything that that prevents us from living our best lives, right.

00:36:29.351 --> 00:36:40.664
That is good, that is really good, because it's like for me, it's like I, it's just in my brain a vision board and I bought this.

00:36:40.664 --> 00:36:47.114
It was like a venture bank at Walmart and I was like, ok, well, we're going to start.

00:36:47.114 --> 00:36:49.639
I know I've never been to Colorado.

00:36:49.639 --> 00:37:09.536
I want to go there, I want to go to Utah, I want to go to New Mexico, I want to go back to Virginia, but I want to bring my camera because that portion of me doing pictures that made me happy and joyous and I've taught both of my kids also how to shoot on the camera.

00:37:09.536 --> 00:37:13.603
So these are like fun little journeys.

00:37:14.063 --> 00:37:19.257
And I started yesterday and it wasn't that long of a drive.

00:37:19.257 --> 00:37:33.306
But my son likes fishing now and my friend she's at by the border, by Oklahoma, but we were at Lake Texoma yesterday and it was beautiful.

00:37:33.306 --> 00:37:34.931
My son tried to fish.

00:37:34.931 --> 00:37:42.224
Unfortunately it was the middle of the day so of course we caught nothing, but it was just.

00:37:42.224 --> 00:37:51.646
It was so relaxing, so peaceful to be in a different place and it got me thinking I really need to accomplish this.

00:37:51.646 --> 00:37:54.364
So I told my son I go for something.

00:37:54.364 --> 00:37:58.085
It's either Galveston, but I've never taken him.

00:37:58.085 --> 00:38:00.563
Well, I take that back.

00:38:00.563 --> 00:38:03.625
I think I did take him once, but it's been many years.

00:38:03.625 --> 00:38:19.317
In Oklahoma they have these cabins and I remember getting one with a pond right outside and I was like I need that one because I want my son to be able to go out there and just fish Whenever he wants to.

00:38:19.317 --> 00:38:33.215
I may not like it, but I was like for the weekend I just want to cook at the cabin, have my coffee out on the porch, he can go fish morning, evening, do what he wants to, and it'll be beautiful fall weather.

00:38:34.315 --> 00:38:46.657
But as long as you have that vision and, like your book says, getting into the right frame of mind, basically, and achieving those goals, we have one life to live, right?

00:38:46.657 --> 00:38:49.902
So we need to make the most of it.

00:38:49.902 --> 00:39:03.565
But being caught in the job and I don't like to say caught, but really working nine to five and we're doing this as a routine and hoping for retirement.

00:39:03.565 --> 00:39:14.146
But, like you know, for me, my health issues that I go through, I don't think I have a really long life and that's just what I feel.

00:39:14.146 --> 00:39:27.289
So I feel like in my world I want to do things just a little bit faster, but I also want to make sure I'm happy before whenever my time is, because I don't see a life to 80 or 90.

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I just don't.

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So yeah, I'm trying to put like a speedway and enjoy my time, even though I have to work still just to get to those places.

00:39:39.815 --> 00:39:44.387
But running my own company, too, has made me see things in a different light.

00:39:44.387 --> 00:39:49.384
You know, I'm my own boss, I'm running the show for my photography.

00:39:49.384 --> 00:39:53.224
It's basically down to the point.

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I take pride in that and having that freedom and I love how you said freedom, because that's what it is you can breathe easier.

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It's on your own time, you make those decisions.

00:40:07.302 --> 00:40:09.905
But so the book.

00:40:09.905 --> 00:40:12.510
How long did it take you to write that book?

00:40:28.054 --> 00:40:28.777
18 months ago at least.

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Now I'm a person I, I, I've, I can remember reading up until the point I started writing the book.

00:40:31.646 --> 00:40:52.489
I can remember reading one book, cover to cover, wholeheartedly in my life, and it was a book called sale of two idiots, and it was a book that inspired me to go sailing Right, and so I put that in context that for me, you know it's, it's a, you know, it was a really real struggle for me to, to do, to stay committed to that.

00:40:52.489 --> 00:40:57.510
I, I, I'm a big picture guy and when it gets down to the details of writing the book, it was challenging.

00:40:57.510 --> 00:40:59.135
So, yeah, so it.

00:40:59.476 --> 00:41:06.429
It took me that long, but I had a teacher in college that she completely rewired me.

00:41:06.429 --> 00:41:23.670
I mentioned her in the book, I believe in the acknowledgments lynn wolson croft, and, and she, I used to be this flowery guy that used to write thousands of words to say one sentence, and she rewired me to to get to the point right, and so, yeah, that's what really got me through.

00:41:23.670 --> 00:41:26.239
It is that mindset I kept she.

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She passed away from cancer a number of years ago.

00:41:28.423 --> 00:41:32.199
May she rest in peace, but I remember her.

00:41:32.199 --> 00:41:38.769
Her voice was almost like ringing in my head all the time saying OK, get to the point, get to the point, stay, stay focused.

00:41:38.769 --> 00:41:41.532
And so yeah yeah, definitely, yep.

00:41:41.552 --> 00:41:45.358
Yeah, yeah, definitely, yep, getting all those words out, but condensed.

00:41:45.358 --> 00:41:50.068
I had a discussion about that with a friend a couple days ago.

00:41:50.068 --> 00:41:55.894
It's like, shorten it up, make it sweet.

00:41:55.894 --> 00:41:57.900
You know, there's sometimes even on my show.

00:41:57.900 --> 00:41:59.844
We'll just go in tangents and talk and talk and talk and talk.

00:41:59.844 --> 00:42:07.626
You know so, but definitely I know for my listeners today I do have his book.

00:42:07.626 --> 00:42:15.547
You can purchase that, um through this store of wwwkeephopealivecom podcast.

00:42:15.547 --> 00:42:17.617
Keep hope alive podcastcom.

00:42:17.617 --> 00:42:22.164
Um, but definitely now, where also can they find your book?

00:42:23.326 --> 00:42:28.855
So right now I've got it on Amazon in all markets Canadian market, us market and, I believe, worldwide.

00:42:28.855 --> 00:42:34.744
It's also on Barnes Noble and it released on August 15th.

00:42:34.744 --> 00:42:50.304
So I'm still ramping up other distributors and kind of becoming acquainted with them, but I know that those are definitely good avenues at the moment anyways okay, perfect now also as far as website.

00:42:50.384 --> 00:42:52.007
What social media?

00:42:52.266 --> 00:42:53.489
stuff can they find you on?

00:42:53.489 --> 00:43:12.588
So I'm I do business consulting, so there's a page on my business consulting page that's dedicated just to the book without a compass, the, the, the the website is is Sean Hamill consultingcom, and you'll find a tab on there that is dedicated to without a compass.

00:43:12.588 --> 00:43:14.438
Um, social media.

00:43:14.438 --> 00:43:18.405
I've also got a Facebook page called without a compass as well.

00:43:18.405 --> 00:43:24.641
Um, those are the key spots right now that I can think of.

00:43:25.824 --> 00:43:27.626
Oh, that's cool, those are really cool.

00:43:27.626 --> 00:43:29.230
Okay, good, Good, good, good.

00:43:29.230 --> 00:43:30.440
I'm glad to hear that.

00:43:30.440 --> 00:43:35.759
Now people I always ask this with the book is it on Audible, Audible?

00:43:37.822 --> 00:43:44.512
uh, as far as me doing the uh, the, the um narrative, I haven't gotten to that yet.

00:43:44.512 --> 00:43:48.824
I've been asked to do that, so I'm going to get to it.

00:43:48.824 --> 00:43:53.291
And uh, yeah, it's just um a matter of when.

00:43:53.291 --> 00:44:07.831
I hope to have that done, probably, I'm going to say, within the next three months, just to be safe, as much as I'd rather get it done sooner than that, I'll I'll give myself that three-month cushion anyways that's cool.

00:44:07.871 --> 00:44:12.190
That's cool because I know with books I'm just more of the audible person.

00:44:12.190 --> 00:44:19.286
I always put my airpods in and like I'm gonna listen to this book tonight before I fall asleep, you know.

00:44:19.286 --> 00:44:20.208
So I.

00:44:20.208 --> 00:44:27.206
So I was like I went from books holding the book, reading it, and I'm just I'm in love with it.

00:44:27.206 --> 00:44:31.121
So I love getting the books in the mail and everything.

00:44:31.121 --> 00:44:35.710
But when it's audible it's just so much, I don't know.

00:44:35.710 --> 00:44:39.449
It seems funner, but everybody's different.

00:44:39.449 --> 00:44:42.902
You know you either like holding the book or listening to the book.

00:44:42.902 --> 00:44:45.690
So I'm glad they're both ways and stuff.

00:44:45.690 --> 00:44:48.117
So now, what do?

00:44:48.117 --> 00:44:50.161
Are you going to be writing any more books?

00:44:51.445 --> 00:44:51.846
I don't know.

00:44:51.846 --> 00:44:53.068
I mean, that's the thing is.

00:44:53.068 --> 00:44:55.452
Is that getting through this?

00:44:55.452 --> 00:44:59.628
It seemed like such a mountain for me at first and it's kind of funny.

00:44:59.628 --> 00:45:03.764
I said the same thing when we took our first trip, when we went sailing.

00:45:03.764 --> 00:45:08.547
I would wake up in a cold sweat at nights thinking what am I doing, how am I going to do this, and so on.

00:45:08.547 --> 00:45:13.103
And then the second time, when we RV'd through Mexico, it was like no big deal.

00:45:13.103 --> 00:45:23.603
Now that I'm done the book and I've seen what's involved, now it doesn't seem like such a big deal to write the next book.

00:45:23.603 --> 00:45:24.925
But if I do, it'll be something to continue, you know to.

00:45:24.925 --> 00:45:36.304
I guess I need to wait and see, get feedback from the community as to what questions are unanswered and take that as my direction on where to go from here see, that's a good thing.

00:45:36.585 --> 00:46:05.666
So I mean, I'm learning so many new things through my podcast about people and their journeys and everything, and it's always got me thinking like, okay, like for you, I know, after this podcast, I'm going to be like I need to travel, like I need to start booking things and making a little map and tell my son we're doing this and this, and I just became a grandma too, so I gotta figure that one out.

00:46:05.666 --> 00:46:11.503
But I would love to have all my kids together, like to go glamping, glamping.

00:46:11.563 --> 00:46:47.411
Yeah, camping, glamping yeah so, and you know what that to me, what the the big point to think about is is we're all going to take our last breath one day not to get morbid or anything, but it's going to happen to us and, provided that we have the moment to think about that, ask yourself this do you want to be, do you want to take that last breath with a huge bank account you know you traded your time for the money that padded your bank account or is it going to be more important to you, when you're taking that last breath, to have a huge memory bank right?

00:46:47.411 --> 00:47:04.632
Yeah, I gave up a good career and and went into this this, you know this adventure so that we would have all the event, all the memories, right, and it's like you said I, I too feel like I'm not going to live to 80 or 90.

00:47:04.880 --> 00:47:08.530
And so I thought I want to make sure I get the memory bank filled.

00:47:09.721 --> 00:47:13.110
I feel like you're going to go on another boat ride and then just write a book.

00:47:13.110 --> 00:47:20.112
That's what I was thinking, because you said seeing your wife glow with the dolphins.

00:47:20.112 --> 00:47:21.786
You probably want to see that again.

00:47:21.786 --> 00:47:24.945
And maybe she is like she is.

00:47:24.945 --> 00:47:40.911
It sounds like she's very nice and very spiritual too and likes, you know, the open water and she feels so good, you know seeing the dolphins and yeah, just that's very peaceful, very common.

00:47:41.853 --> 00:47:42.956
Yeah, well, that's very peaceful, very common.

00:47:42.976 --> 00:47:46.666
Yeah, well, that's what's in it Common collective yeah.

00:47:47.440 --> 00:47:59.432
She's a certified yoga instructor now, so we actually were nearly retired and, yeah, we live in a trailer up at the lake in the summertime.

00:47:59.432 --> 00:48:01.456
We have properties, but we choose to just stay at the lake in the summertime.

00:48:01.456 --> 00:48:06.827
We have properties, but we choose to just stay at the trailer instead, and we're buying a boat this winter.

00:48:06.827 --> 00:48:08.105
We're shopping now.

00:48:09.143 --> 00:48:09.949
And so within the.

00:48:10.050 --> 00:48:13.126
you know, we live in Canada, so it's going to get cold here soon.

00:48:13.126 --> 00:48:14.565
So we have to get this figured out.

00:48:14.565 --> 00:48:30.086
In the next month or so we're going to get a boat that we're going to go sailing on again this winter and that's going to be our life going forward is living by the lake in the summer and living on the ocean or near the ocean on the boat in the wintertime.

00:48:30.086 --> 00:48:35.048
And Leanne's going to teach yoga wherever anybody will put up with her.

00:48:35.048 --> 00:48:36.626
And that's our life now.

00:48:38.101 --> 00:48:39.045
Well, that's fun.

00:48:39.045 --> 00:48:40.967
You see, you got it all.

00:48:40.967 --> 00:48:45.182
It's all planned out, it's ready to go and everything.

00:48:45.182 --> 00:48:47.505
So I need to be more like that.

00:48:47.505 --> 00:48:48.266
I love that.

00:48:48.326 --> 00:48:50.487
My 12 year old son is like that.

00:48:50.487 --> 00:48:58.353
He's like I'm going to be a pro football player and then when I retire, I actually want to be a children's minister at a church.

00:48:58.353 --> 00:49:02.317
And I was like thinking, well, he told me this when he was 11.

00:49:02.317 --> 00:49:05.907
I was like, okay, you know, because I wasn't.

00:49:05.907 --> 00:49:14.009
I knew at age 14, I wanted to be a certified wedding planner, and it's probably come from playing Barbie, so much you know.

00:49:14.009 --> 00:49:27.695
But I was like, okay, so, but I accomplished those goals and I became a certified planner and then I taught myself photography and been at it for almost 25 years.

00:49:27.695 --> 00:49:30.307
So it's just one of those things.

00:49:30.307 --> 00:49:31.746
And here I am.

00:49:31.980 --> 00:49:43.291
I mean, I did start another company where I wanted to interview people but we didn't have podcasts many years ago and just to have the videographer out there doing a commercial.

00:49:43.291 --> 00:49:47.371
It was getting pricey, very expensive, and I had to give up on that dream.

00:49:47.371 --> 00:49:51.050
I was like there is nobody who wants to pay this price.

00:49:51.050 --> 00:49:56.842
And then I started teaching and doing networking events through meetupcom and somebody one day said well, why don't you have a podcast on this?

00:49:56.842 --> 00:50:00.306
Somebody one day said, well, why don't you have a podcast on this?

00:50:00.306 --> 00:50:01.367
I go a what?

00:50:02.108 --> 00:50:09.976
And I was like and then, you know, the one gift I learned in life is people will just come up.

00:50:09.976 --> 00:50:11.056
I don't know them.

00:50:11.056 --> 00:50:15.438
They tell me their life story and I just become a better listener.

00:50:15.438 --> 00:50:19.889
You know, it's kind of like a big hello.

00:50:19.889 --> 00:50:21.572
Nadine is right here.

00:50:21.572 --> 00:50:23.387
You know, let's do this.

00:50:23.387 --> 00:50:25.427
And it was when my friend passed.

00:50:25.427 --> 00:50:41.146
I mean, we were always talking about wanting to be heard by our family, our friends, the guys we were dating, doctors, and then it was here it is, it's born and I'm happy about it.

00:50:41.621 --> 00:50:46.190
I feel like, you know, when I go to church on Sundays, I'm like I got this.

00:50:46.190 --> 00:50:47.253
This feels good.

00:50:47.253 --> 00:50:51.271
You know, I'm doing the right thing for the right reasons.

00:50:51.271 --> 00:50:54.565
But here it is and it's so funny.

00:50:54.565 --> 00:50:58.750
Well, it's not funny to the people who want to be a guest.

00:50:58.750 --> 00:51:09.708
They're like, well, you're all booked up and I'm like in my head, I know, and they're coming fast and I rely on Calendly to keep everything.

00:51:09.708 --> 00:51:13.429
And it was like well, it's blocking me and I go in, I go.

00:51:13.429 --> 00:51:15.391
I don't know why it's blocked Like.

00:51:15.391 --> 00:51:16.652
I can't figure it out.

00:51:16.652 --> 00:51:21.036
It says it's open for everybody to choose a date all into next year.

00:51:21.036 --> 00:51:23.818
But it's interesting.

00:51:28.579 --> 00:51:33.643
I feel like doing this has made me a much better person, and whatever health challenges I have to go through, it's people.

00:51:33.643 --> 00:51:38.853
You know the guests and people hearing the message coming out of this podcast.

00:51:38.853 --> 00:51:43.648
It keeps me going too, so I'm very happy and blessed to have that.

00:51:43.648 --> 00:52:05.121
So, but definitely, you are very inspiring, very creative, very outgoing and adventurous, and I love how you took your whole family out, too, to enjoy the world and teach them that not everything is going to be based just on a solo career to make a living.

00:52:05.121 --> 00:52:14.487
You are like teaching them we got this and we can do this, and this is the initiative you take to accomplish your dreams.

00:52:14.487 --> 00:52:15.911
So what a great message.

00:52:15.911 --> 00:52:17.155
That was amazing.

00:52:17.155 --> 00:52:19.882
Now, did I cover everything with you?

00:52:19.882 --> 00:52:23.271
I know that I probably got my mommy glasses on.

00:52:23.271 --> 00:52:26.603
I want to know really quick.

00:52:26.603 --> 00:52:30.753
You purchased an old wooden jungle property in Honduras.

00:52:32.101 --> 00:52:32.541
We did.

00:52:32.541 --> 00:52:35.708
Yeah, that was adventure number three.

00:52:35.708 --> 00:53:02.501
We decided we needed to kind of settle down and start thinking about making some money again to rebuild the bank account, and so we went down to we actually had two people within a week of each other suggest that we go to Roatan, and one recommended a bar that was for sale in Roatan and Roatan.

00:53:02.501 --> 00:53:14.349
And then other people completely unconnected to the first couple said that there was a boat for sale, a catamaran for sale that was used for charters, and so we said, okay, well, the universe seems to be talking to us about Roatan, so let's go to Roatan.

00:53:14.389 --> 00:53:32.068
It was actually this time of year and the memories are coming up on Facebook over the last couple of days and we went down and we saw this old wooden building sitting up on a hill overlooking the Caribbean Sea, and it was a dilapidated building.

00:53:32.068 --> 00:53:34.072
It was in rough shape, it was three stories.

00:53:34.072 --> 00:53:40.572
So we bought it and we took possession of it on Halloween in 2016.

00:53:40.572 --> 00:53:50.009
Me and my son went down to to uh take possession and my son turned to me and said dad, what did you do, um?

00:53:50.009 --> 00:53:53.474
And it was rough and we got at it.

00:53:53.474 --> 00:54:01.980
We uh said that we were going to have it open for Christmas and the locals all laughed at us and said you don't understand Roatan time, right?

00:54:01.980 --> 00:54:05.246
And we said we'll figure it out.

00:54:05.246 --> 00:54:10.242
And, sure enough, we welcomed our first guests on December 24th 2016.

00:54:10.242 --> 00:54:21.123
And it wasn't without speed bumps, but we worked them all out and we owned the property until 2022.

00:54:21.123 --> 00:54:25.050
We welcomed guests from, I think, almost 40 countries around the world.

00:54:25.751 --> 00:54:28.596
Oh my goodness, that's amazing.

00:54:29.139 --> 00:54:31.509
It was so amazing to meet that many cultures.

00:54:31.509 --> 00:54:32.985
Yeah, it was awesome.

00:54:34.360 --> 00:54:35.626
Man, look at you.

00:54:35.626 --> 00:54:38.885
Oh man, that is great, that is wonderful.

00:54:38.885 --> 00:54:46.550
Well, I want to thank you so much for coming on our show and remember, guys, get his book.

00:54:46.550 --> 00:54:49.846
You're just amazing.

00:54:49.846 --> 00:54:51.706
The words are just not coming out.

00:54:51.706 --> 00:54:59.530
So I'm excited for your whole journey and everything, and bringing so much light into the world is amazing.

00:54:59.530 --> 00:55:01.284
So thank you, thank you.

00:55:01.284 --> 00:55:02.449
Thank you for coming on.

00:55:03.681 --> 00:55:05.128
I have to tip my cap back to you.

00:55:05.128 --> 00:55:09.568
This is the first podcast I've done and I couldn't have done it with a more incredible person.

00:55:09.568 --> 00:55:13.706
This has been an awesome experience for me, so thank you very much for having me.

00:55:14.081 --> 00:55:14.985
You see my smile.

00:55:14.985 --> 00:55:19.126
It's like oh, it's coming up so well.

00:55:19.126 --> 00:55:38.844
Thank you, I'm all blushy now, but remember, guys, if you have any questions, we have a number that you can call and place your questions at 833-780-HOPE, which I think is 4673.

00:55:38.844 --> 00:55:39.365
And leave a message there.

00:55:39.365 --> 00:55:49.663
Or you can go on the website and they have a voicemail and you can leave a message there also and I promise to give it to Sean and we can come back and revisit if there's any questions.

00:55:49.663 --> 00:55:58.282
So I also want to thank all the other sponsors too that make Keep Hope Alive afloat.

00:55:58.623 --> 00:56:13.226
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00:56:47.769 --> 00:56:54.353
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00:56:54.353 --> 00:56:57.007
He is a former football player.

00:56:57.007 --> 00:57:02.733
He is a public speaker and author as well and has his own podcast.

00:57:02.733 --> 00:57:08.425
You can gather so much cool information from him too, so go visit him.

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She's been doing this for so many years.

00:57:15.329 --> 00:57:20.012
She puts out these bridal shows, I think like five times out of the year.

00:57:20.012 --> 00:57:23.862
You can always go on to the website and see what she has to offer.

00:57:23.862 --> 00:57:31.485
But go meet your photographers, your caterers, your videographers, your fashion designers and get that all planned out.

00:57:31.485 --> 00:57:37.695
Our next one is Bryce Harney at wwwbrycemagiccom.

00:57:37.695 --> 00:57:43.184
He, of course, is a magician and a mind mentalist reader, which is really cool.

00:57:43.184 --> 00:57:46.538
He does corporate events and church events and travels.

00:57:46.538 --> 00:57:58.172
You've probably seen him on TV, but I tell everybody, go to YouTube, type in Bryce Harney or go to his website and has a couple of things that you can see him doing his show and it's just amazing.

00:57:58.740 --> 00:58:02.070
Our next one is milesandsmileseventscom.

00:58:02.070 --> 00:58:03.704
It's Deborah Rose.

00:58:03.704 --> 00:58:06.527
She I love her to death.

00:58:06.527 --> 00:58:12.327
She's a handwriting analysis and lipstick reader, so you can book her for any events.

00:58:12.327 --> 00:58:14.728
She is 100% accurate.

00:58:14.728 --> 00:58:18.490
I mean, I'm a stubborn person, but she got me.

00:58:18.490 --> 00:58:25.833
I brought her to like a couple open houses to work with us too, and she was amazing.

00:58:25.833 --> 00:58:29.170
I've seen her at events and she is so amazing.

00:58:29.170 --> 00:58:32.340
She's getting everybody and I just love watching the people go.

00:58:32.340 --> 00:58:34.005
How does she know that about me?

00:58:34.005 --> 00:58:41.206
And I rather just sit with her the whole event than do the event, so that tells you and speaks volumes.

00:58:41.867 --> 00:58:44.733
Our last one is richmanpunchnet.

00:58:44.733 --> 00:58:51.632
Richman graduated from the Juilliards and he is a violinist for way over 30 years.

00:58:51.632 --> 00:59:02.490
Not talking about age we are getting older, richman but definitely he's played in front of a million people before he's been on, I think, two different Lifetime movies.

00:59:02.490 --> 00:59:09.541
He had a spot to do playing the violin and right now he's out on tour making the world happy with his music.

00:59:09.541 --> 00:59:11.887
So check out his information Now.

00:59:11.887 --> 00:59:17.045
Just remember, wherever you find your podcast, you'll be able to find Keep Hope Alive.

00:59:17.045 --> 00:59:20.728
If you would like to become a guest speaker, send us an email.

00:59:20.728 --> 00:59:22.981
You can find us on the social media.

00:59:22.981 --> 00:59:30.253
Of course I like TikTok now, but TikTok, instagram, facebook, whatever it may be.

00:59:30.253 --> 00:59:34.525
But I once again want to thank you for coming on to the show.

00:59:34.525 --> 00:59:39.181
You've been a joy and until next time, guys.

00:59:39.181 --> 00:59:40.804
We will see you.

00:59:40.804 --> 00:59:45.634
Bye, guys, love and light, bye-bye.