Aug. 15, 2024
From Heartache to Happiness with Lynda Namey
What if you had the courage to completely transform your life after facing unimaginable hardships? Join us as we uncover the inspiring story of Dr. Linda Namey, a life coach who turned her life around after enduring a heart attack and a divorce. From selling everything she owned to starting fresh in Alabama with just two boxes and her French bulldog, Dr. Namey shares her journey of personal growth and the daring decisions that led her to a fulfilling new chapter.
Throughout our conversation, we explore the myriad paths to self-improvement and resilience. Learn how to set intentional goals and rebuild your life after unexpected challenges like divorce or weight loss. Dr. Namey offers profound insights into lifelong learning, the power of words in mental well-being, and the transformative ability to shift perspectives and channel pain into beauty. We also touch on the playful side of personal growth with topics like dating transformations, manifesting relationships, and even a humorous dating challenge involving love letters.
In the latter part of our discussion, we delve into holistic approaches to healing and the importance of harnessing energy beyond traditional talk therapy. From Reiki to spiritual readings, discover how these practices can unblock emotional barriers and foster well-being. The episode wraps up with a heartwarming dialogue about friendship, love, and the joyous anticipation of life's big moments, promising laughter and unforgettable memories. Tune in for an episode filled with wisdom, humor, and the universal message that personal transformation is always within reach.
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Love & Light - Keep Hope Alive
Chapters
00:03 - Personal Growth With Dr. Linda Namy
09:31 - Navigating Personal Growth and Life Changes
23:20 - Coping With Trauma and Finding Hope
33:00 - Choosing to Transform Pain Into Beauty
36:52 - Embracing Personal Growth and Transformation
40:41 - Inner Light for Personal Transformation
46:16 - Dating Transformation and Manifesting Relationships
51:15 - Love Letters With Linda
57:12 - Exploring Energy and Personal Growth
01:12:54 - Friendship and Wedding Toast Promise
Transcript
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Hello and welcome.
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To Keep Hope Alive podcast.
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We have another great show for you.
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I have Dr Linda Namy here with us today and she is a life coach that teaches personal growth and transformation, so we are going to dive in and see what she's all about and how we can get transformed by the end of the show, right?
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So welcome, welcome, welcome, Excited to have you on today.
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And before we actually get started, Dr Linda Nemi, I'm going to ask you a question.
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You ready for the question?
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I think so.
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Okay, Out of the past 15 years, how many weddings have you been to?
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See, that's really a hard question.
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I'd have to be like I'd have to think about nieces, not friends.
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I'm at the age that my friends are either married or divorced and not remarried yet my nieces.
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My son just got married in June.
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My daughter was seven years ago.
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So, oh boy, I think I can only come up with three.
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Three, okay, well, that's a good number.
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Who?
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have I forgotten Whoever's listening?
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If I forgot your wedding, it was not that it's not memorable, it's that I'm old and can't remember you know all different aspects of the wedding industry and what goes on.
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So when you're walking into a ceremony, usually there is something to sign to let the bride and groom know you're there.
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What are you signing?
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Well, you know, my son didn't have anything which was very interesting to me.
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My niece did the traditional guest book where I'm like, okay, it's gotten really bad, but my daughter did a beautiful picture of the two of them with their dogs and you signed a picture which is now hanging up in the house.
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Yeah, well, yes, I love that idea with the picture and the signing and everything.
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One of our big sponsors here is lifeonrecordcom, and what they do instead of the guest book, they have a vintage phone.
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Your guests can come and pick up and leave a message and say Hi, congratulations on your wedding, we're so happy.
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Or maybe it's like a groomsman going it's about time you put a ring on her finger.
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So right next to the phone, if you didn't want to stand in the line, there is a QR code you can scan and use your own cell phone to leave a message either before or after that event.
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Yeah, and I call it the gift of voice because it says it's what you're collecting and you can always go back and listen to it.
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So, and this can be for any event, it doesn't have to be just for weddings.
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It could be for family reunions or school events too.
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I used it for an injury at a football game, so the kids could, you know, actually say I'm sorry, I hope you feel better really soon, and go about doing that to spread the message.
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So, once all these voices are collected, they will burn it on a 12-inch vinyl record or they have a keepsake speaker that you can use.
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I call it the little boom box, and it's really so like if it was a wedding.
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You know you're sitting down having that piece of cake for your one year and you can go back and listen to everybody congratulating you.
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I know Now you got to return the phone, but you get the phone number for one year, which is really cool.
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So with that one year, even before the anniversary comes, if they wanted to call back and say happy anniversary and add that in there too, they can do that as well.
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But their plans start at $99.
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All right, so let's get started.
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I want to know who Dr Linda Namy is.
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Oh, what a hard question.
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Dr Linda Namy has gone through transformation.
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I mean, I think for everybody that question gets a different answer now than it probably did, you know, 10 or 15 years ago.
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And that's life.
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You know I am.
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I was the mom, raised two kids, lived in Pennsylvania, got divorced which is a whole story that we can get into if anybody wants to hear it, because I think a lot of times it's helpful to live about pain that other people have experienced.
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But I am somebody who reached a point one day.
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I had been doing counseling, I had a heart attack.
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I reached a point one day where I thought I can't continue to live this life that I'm living.
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I packed, sold everything I owned, packed things into two boxes, packed things into two boxes and I took two boxes me, my French bulldog and I moved from Pennsylvania 12 hours South to Alabama.
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Um, so I would say Dr Linda Namy is somebody who is willing to say this isn't working.
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Now what do I do?
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That's awesome, though.
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There's experiences in life that we learn and then we can teach others, which is great.
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So, but you know, that's the one thing I always said I wanted to do is just get in my car and drive somewhere, and I hope I'll land in Colorado or something.
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You know, something with beautiful scenery.
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I knew I wanted to go.
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South Pennsylvania was too cold for me and I reached this point where I was like nine months out of the year I was cold.
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And then, as my kids got older you know my son now is a dentist and he moved.
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We were in Hershey, pennsylvania.
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He had moved to Delaware.
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He just recently got married.
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My daughter got married and has two kids of her own.
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And I remember waking up one day and just thinking and my, my former husband got the house as part of the divorce with his girlfriend.
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And I woke up one morning and I was like everybody else has taken what has happened and they're moving forward.
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Yet I was living the same life.
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So I just was like enough turn.
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I gave my notice.
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I, yeah, I just picked up.
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I had no idea where I would end up, what job I would get.
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It was just I had like picked random places that I either knew someone there or I knew of you know the town for some reason, and I really did the whole pick it on a map.
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I was like I'm going to go to Huntsville, huntsville.
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Texas, alabama.
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I was like Texas.
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I was like that's where the person is.
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Huntsville, alabama.
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Okay, alabama, sweet home Alabama.
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That's really really cool.
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So wow, I've never been to Alabama but I'm sure it's really pretty out there Gorgeous.
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It's gorgeous.
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Yeah, yeah, definitely, oh my gosh.
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So I give you the credit for getting up and doing that and you know, I was like one day with the driving just 24 hours or 48.
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Where I stop is where I land to find a job and stuff, but then in terms of perspective yeah my kids.
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I think that the universe nudges you in ways that you can't ignore it.
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So I tell the story where I'm like well, I didn't have a job, but I have to say I did have a very short-term position doing public speaking coaching, did have a very short term position doing public speaking coaching and it was in Nashville, which is about an hour and a half, two hours from Huntsville, and I couldn't afford Nashville.
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So I was like I'm going to go to Huntsville, yeah, yeah.
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So I think anybody who gets to that nudge where they're like I'm just going to pick up and go, is when I'm like meditate, look at the signs, listen, because maybe you're supposed to.
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Yes, I really believe that you are.
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I call it follow my gut, and it's so funny because it comes with the job and it also, I noticed, comes with dating.
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And you know, I catch myself talking to people but, knowing how, what's gone in the past with me and dating, I'm like I get a little hesitant.
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And I don't mean to sound hesitant, but I'm like, am I really going to do this?
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Do I want to go out on a date?
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And you know it's just little things like that.
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But then you have, I call it the you know nudge here.
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Let's go, let's try it.
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You know it could be something very, very special and if that's something you seek, you go and you try at least and give it your full best.
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And if not, you made a friend out of the process.
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Right, you made a friend out of the process.
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Yes, yes, yes.
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So, but definitely, um, and being a coach, you know, and helping others with their personal growth, let's talk about that.
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I'm going to kind of dissect, dissect this.
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It's all coming out wrong.
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I told you bloopers are bloopers here.
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So, yeah, how would you help somebody who needed personal growth?
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I mean, we all need personal growth.
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So let me just start there.
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I don't think that a person ever gets to a point where you can just say I'm done.
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So that's like the number one thing is to just acknowledge that, wherever we are, there's somewhere else to go.
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And then the way that I would help someone truly comes from having a conversation, because, as somebody who's going to sit in front of me and just be, I'm not happy, which is then how do we deal with that?
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You have to break it down so you tell me what's going on in your life, why you're not happy.
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There are people who come to me who can quite honestly say I want to lose weight, and that's part of personal growth and that's something that we talk about.
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You know, and I can say from experience I've lost 80 pounds.
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Let's talk about what worked for me, you know, and then you, it's a plan.
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I think that anybody who approaches me for personal growth or whatever you want to call it, people do better first to acknowledge where they are so we can look at where do you want to be?
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Exactly.
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Yeah, and then I hear you on that, yeah.
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Because, you know, with personal growth I'm going to just use me as an example.
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Like with personal growth, I'm going to just use me as an example, like, hey, I want to lose 20 pounds, but I don't know how to set my mindset.
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And that should be like also personal growth and learning what your goals are, what your mission is and how you achieve them and how that will become personal growth.
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I think so.
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Yeah, I mean everybody has to grow.
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It's really an important thing.
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I don't.
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I mean I've probably had met people who are just like no, I'm good where I am.
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But what I would say to that is be good where you are, but always strive to make changes, to be different and better.
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Yes, definitely.
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And I want to add in there really quick and learn about yourself too, because that helps, and I also learned the more I soak in more information about topics that I like, or even like I listen to Audible at night and then, or I'll get a book sent in the mail and I'll start reading that and I'm getting intrigued.
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But feeding the information, or feeding your soul, this new information, is very healthy and very, very wise.
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And then, I guess, with personal growth, if you are going through a divorce, I remember I was married before and we were married almost eight years, and two days before our eight-year wedding anniversary it was like bye-bye, I fell in love with somebody else and I was like blindsided.
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I did not see it coming.
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Yeah, I think a lot of us, a lot of listeners I'm sure, have their same story of a divorce.
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Like, it is very sad to me the sheer number of divorces, and I mean it's a lot of us.
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The way I was raised, where you know I would have been married forever Um, and I was married 22 years before my marriage ended and I'm going to like make two points for people who are listening to this.
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Um, I'm going to like make two points for people who are listening to this.
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My first one would be that I call things that happen and maybe I told you this already.
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We have a whiteboard and it's like our whiteboard of life, where we have this picture drawn of the way our lives are going to look and divorce is a perfect thing to look at.
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You get married and it is it's the bride, the groom, it's the you know the amazing story and it's our love and the flowers are beautiful.
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And then you take that beautiful picture and you're drawing it on a whiteboard and this is how it's going to look.
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So we're going to stay married and we're going to have two kids and three dogs and live in a house with a white picket fence or whatever, but it's our vision on a whiteboard.
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And then what happened is what does happen is someone or something comes in and erases your whiteboard, and those are the moments when you need personal growth.
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So for me, my whiteboard, my vision, was like your same story, except you didn't admit to an affair, you just got miserable.
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Yeah.
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But the same could be said, you know, for car accidents, a health problem, a death that you didn't count on, where we have our picture of this is the way it's supposed to look, of this is the way it's supposed to look.
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And then, when it doesn't happen that way because your whiteboard's erased, is that pivotal moment where I say that's when you need growth and that's when it's time for personal growth, to accept what has happened and then say but now, what am I going to do?
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Exactly, yeah, and when you said erase it from the whiteboard, that kind of just caught me right there.
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I was like man, you know, and it feels like you're being reborn and learning stuff all over again.
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It's a scary thing when you look at the life you had planned and none of it's there.
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I know, I know and I think you know I always mentioned this ever since I was 14, I was like I'm going to grow up and be a wedding planner.
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I want to help people get married and when I get married, nothing's ever going to go wrong.
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Yep, I wish I was Barbie all of a sudden.
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I wish I was Barbie all of a sudden because maybe that would be real.
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But in this world, in this life, no, it's like I hate to say it, even though I am a wedding planner and wedding photographer, I'm seeing so many more divorce.
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And then it's like hey, can you do our next wedding too and do the photos?
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Yeah.
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But then I go back to when I was in second.
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I was trying to call your new groom the wrong name.
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Oh my gosh, yeah, yeah, I look at my.
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Well, she was a friend back in the day, but second grade she sat across from me.
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She's a divorce lawyer now and I'm the wedding planner and I'm like she's doing so well in life and I was like, okay, next life, become a divorce lawyer.
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Watch, she'll become the wedding planner and she'll still out.
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Watch, she'll become the wedding planner and she'll still out.
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It's like game on, like let's do it, yeah.
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So I mean, of course, every time I see somebody got engaged, I'm happy for them and I really hope it sticks, because my vision is seeing the older couple when I was working at Macy's walking hand by hand and just it was the sweetest thing they had to be like in their 80s but they were enjoying their company.
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You could tell they were best friends and that's what we need in life and that helps us grow too.
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For personal growth, once you find that person that can do it for you and you know what, I found somebody and I want them as a friend and I let them know what my struggles were and that was healing for me Taking somebody I just don't know and I learned so much from that.
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I tell everybody journal, I do the journal.
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It's important.
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But when you can also talk to somebody, to have that ear to listen, they really get to know you and see that this is you.
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But this is like Facebook.
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Okay, this is TikTok and this is Instagram, but you're going through ABCDE and I'm seeing the real you you know.
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So we perceive a different kind of look overseas social media.
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I can't even talk, so but that would be transformation, right when you're starting to grow.
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It would also be and I teach like a whole course on, like during the happiness shift, and I say, you know it's choose joy five ways in five days.
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But that would be like my first, what I would call it my quote, or my first day, is that you just have to shift your perception of things to change your reality.
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And you can use that, like in that instance where I mean you can shift your perception of a divorce and change the reality of it, where I can say, now I didn't, I always found how I was till, I was happy, I didn't rely.
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Or, like you know, you can say I met someone but I shifted from maybe he's a partner to maybe he's a friend, and it's all you know the polarity of any situation where you just shift yeah, and you can use that in anything Like you can.
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I mean anything like I can.
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Could use that when you talk about the divorce lawyer, where I can be like I mean divorce is bad and I don't want it.
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I hope to get married again someday.
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I mean, if anybody's crazy enough to put up with me and I don't want to get hurt.
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We're all hot messes out there in the world.
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We're all a hot mess, but that's okay, it keeps me busy.
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Yes, it does For me too yes busy?
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Yes, it does For me too.
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Yes, it's fine.
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But you know, you can shift a perception of marriage to say, but look how rich it's making your friend the divorce lawyer.
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Like you can always shift your perception of things.
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Yeah, definitely so, and you know, talking about relationships, I find it when I work for certain companies, it's almost like being in a relationship too, that you have to it's a different mindset, skills, but you want to make sure you like everybody also, that you're working with and being a team and having positivity.
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So those are things to always look out for, because nobody in the world would ever want to be in a relationship or anything like that with somebody who is negative and always bringing you down every single day.
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Words do hurt.
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What was I saying?
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Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.
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Call me this, call me that.
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Yeah, so it's just one of those things.
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It's like okay, well, let's get over this.
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I transformed from if I was a kid at school being bullied.
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I learned how to stand up for myself and be who I am, and this is who I am now and I'm going to show the world so that you know.
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I see that I had to overhear a girl talking in today's world about being bullied and she was saying it's bad because it's not just face to face.
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It could be a fight at the school, but then it turns into social media video.
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It's like a whole new ball game and you know, I am like my doctorates in crisis and trauma counseling, and people in general are afraid which is part of the reason that I chose to work at my doctorate in that particular area and their school shootings, and I mean truly.
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The world is a scary place, but everything that happens speaking of bullying, it's magnified by this need to share our lives through social media, where I'm like I don't, I mean it's, it would be so difficult.
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I think I had a rough raise in my kids, you know, all those years ago.
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It's a whole new thing to teach parents how do you help your kids with social media?
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But then, like you say, you know sticks and stones won't break my bones.
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Well, no, names might not hurt you, but you're now on TikTok and Instagram and Facebook and everything.
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Yeah, Facebook and everything.
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Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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And definitely when we see that I was on a TV show and there was a lot of comments let's just put it that way for the post, I read a few and I was like, oh my gosh, you know what, For my health and my sanity, I'm not reading anymore.
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I was like just forget it, because this is something I did.
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That was asked two times to do and the second time asked, I was like, okay, I will be on your show and do this, but you know, nobody needs to relive that hurt and everybody's going to be judgmental and see the way they see things.
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You know we all don't agree with each other either.
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So no, and that's where I'm sometimes like I don't know when it became acceptable to share your opinion and to insult people, but somehow it's just become acceptable.
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Where I am, I mean good grief, the name of my business is the light in me, and I'm constantly like saying, you know, let the light in me shine to the light in you and radiate.
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See, I truly believe that more people need to start showing respect and light and good, because the rest of it doesn't do anyone any good.
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I'm like when did it become acceptable to answer a difference in opinion with an insult?
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Yeah, yeah, definitely.
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You know there's a I call it my little challenge right now, and where I go for karaoke, there's like two or three other women that I don't know what.
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I've been nice to them when I first met them, like hi, I'm so-and-so, blah, blah, blah, but it just I don't know.
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I feel like I'm in school again, like I don't have that talking.
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But I noticed I tried something even newer for me, because I was like how was I back in school?
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That's what I've been thinking about for the past two years.
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What could I do different?
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But when I see these things happening again, I'm age 46.
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I'm like, okay, well, you know what, whether they like it or not, I'm going to sit down and talk to them and you know I'm just going to talk about hey, I like my new job, and that was one.
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And they were like we're so happy for you and they were sincere is what I picked up on.
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And I was like okay, you know, it made me feel good and I was just like I don't want to see things in a light where it's like this is what I think.
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They think, or maybe they're talking behind my back about me and assume they love you so.
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But I also learned being on my own is fine too, until karaoke and singing with the group, but definitely Other than that.
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I know I'm going to be off topic a little bit here, but we were talking about love and light and just you know different things.
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Another sponsor of mine is Snap Bands and I'm sure you've seen this on Facebook Mine right here, this black one.
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It says hope on it and that's their mantra word.
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They have this cute little elastic band right here and it helps with anxiety, depression, ptsd.
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So we all know we live in this world.
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That is just a crazy, crazy place.
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People can get sad just by watching the news, or they're going to the doctors or school is too stressful.
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Well, they made this bracelet to give this little tug right here, a gentle tug, and it snaps right here on your wrist but it goes through your arm and goes for cognitive thinking.
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So you use the mantra word.
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