Aug. 22, 2024
From Childhood Struggles to Inspiring Lives with Jori O'Neale
What happens when a tumultuous past filled with fear, trauma, and self-harm transforms into a powerful mission for faith and resilience? Journey with us as we meet Jorie O'Neale, a remarkable author, CEO, mother, and wife who calls herself a "fire starter for Jesus." From a challenging childhood in Chicago to a purpose-driven life in New York, Jory opens up about how her faith has ignited her mission to help others unlock their God-given potential. Her story is a testament to the strength found in faith and the incredible impact it can have on our lives and the lives we touch.
Then, we explore the intense and inspiring experiences of an educator who has faced life-threatening situations, from being shot at as an innocent bystander to surviving multiple car crashes. Her journey from a powerless teenager to an empowering high school teacher is filled with lessons on resilience, instinct, and the profound impact of trauma on personal growth. We also share our own encounters with danger and the protective instincts that arise, including a heartwarming story of rescuing a puppy and a chilling experience of being drugged at a karaoke bar.
Finally, discover the healing power of writing and speaking through a deeply personal narrative of overcoming an ACL injury. Follow the story of creating a sacred space filled with spiritual guidance that led to authoring a book and starting a podcast. We also take you on a musical adventure with Richmanpunchnet, a distinguished violinist whose career spans over 30 years and includes performances in front of massive audiences and appearances on Lifetime shows. From planning a book signing in Texas to reminiscing about friendship, this episode is packed with faith, resilience, and the transformative power of storytelling. Join us for an episode that promises to inspire and uplift.
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Love & Light - Keep Hope Alive
Chapters
00:02 - Unleashing God's Gifts
13:55 - Survival Instincts and Traumatic Experiences
29:53 - Discovering Healing Through Writing and Speaking
45:58 - Texas Book Signing and Event Planning
52:47 - Musical Journey and Networking Opportunities
Transcript
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Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
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Today I have Jory O'Neill here with us.
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We're going to be talking about firm but fair with her.
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I just had to say that title really quick, but she is an author.
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Ceo of Christian.
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I always mess up that word.
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I told you there was going to be bloopers Productivity.
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That's the only time I'm going to say that, but I'm so happy to have you on the show.
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And welcome, welcome, welcome, thank you.
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Thank you, you are welcome.
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So, before I get started with this wonderful interview we're about to have, I do have a question for you.
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Out of the last 15, even 20 years, how many weddings have you been to?
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Maybe 25.
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Oh boy, there is a story behind that.
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Are you in the industry?
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I am a host and an MC and my husband's a DJ.
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Yeah, Yay, okay, as a wedding planner and photographer, I totally get it.
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So, um, I guess this will be an easy question If you were going into a ceremony.
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Usually there's something for the guests to sign.
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What are you signing?
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I?
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guess this will be an easy question If you were going into a ceremony.
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Usually there's something for the guests to sign.
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What are you signing?
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Guestbook, yay, yep, definitely.
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So.
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One of our biggest sponsors is lifeonrecordcom, and instead of that guestbook, what they do is a vintage rotary phone, so your guests can go up, pick up the phone and leave a message, be like congratulations on your big wedding, or, dude, it's about time you put that ring on her finger.
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And right next to the phone they have a QR scan code for guests.
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So if the line gets long, I guess you can take out your own mobile device, scan that QR code and leave a message for the couple.
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Now, I use wedding as an example, but you can use this for any event.
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Now, after all, I call it the gift of voice.
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After all these messages get collected, you have a choice you can burn it on a 12-inch vinyl record, or you get a keepsake speaker.
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And so just imagine you're eating your one-year-old piece of cake, your anniversary cake topping, but you can listen to all your friends and family wishing you well.
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So it's a great thing.
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Their plans start at $99 and you get the phone number and I got to say number, not the phone.
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It'd be cool to have the phone, but the number for that year also.
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So to find out more information about them, go visit wwwlifeonrecordcom.
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All right, so the big question here is, who is Jory O'Neill?
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I think probably if you asked me that question four years ago, I wouldn't been able to answer outside of spitting out the numerous titles that I go by.
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But at this stage in my life I'm grateful that god has helped me do a lot of introspection to come to the space of.
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I am a fire starter for Jesus.
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That embodies pretty much everything that I do.
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Uh, all that I am, all that I pretend to be, even is to help advance the kingdom of God and to help others unleash their God-given gifts and bring more joy, more creativity, more energy and more light into the world.
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So that is who.
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I am more creativity, more energy and more light into the world.
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So that is who I am.
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You give me chills.
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Yes, I was like girl.
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You give me chills there.
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So that's who I am, but amidst the titles you mentioned, some of them author, CEO, I think probably my most fond titles.
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I'm a mother to four miraculous children and the wife to one amazing husband.
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So you might hear chitterlings in the background.
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Oh, I gotcha.
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No, that's perfectly fine.
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All kids, pets and husbands are welcome.
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Amen, so, but it's fun to be a mother and doing things out of our creator.
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You know God, people will go.
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Well, why, nadine, do you do the podcast and you're not making money?
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I go.
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I don't want to make money, I want to spread the word and this is the way I feel that I'm serving to God is letting people be heard and share their stories.
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So I'm grateful for anybody who comes on and wants to be a guest on the show and everything.
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But it just gives me chills when I hear that's their mission statement too in life.
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So yay, now I was reading over your bio.
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A lot has gone on in your life to get to where you are, so do tell.
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I don't know where you want me to start.
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I think I was able to surmise my I guess testimony in roughly maybe three minutes.
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I'm trying to get good at condensing all of the life happenings, but over the course of my life, someone asked me I'm originally from Chicago, illinois.
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Currently I reside in New York, and someone said oh, you know, I visited recently.
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Do you like it?
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I said do I like Chicago?
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They said, yeah, like, did you like growing up there?
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And I had to pause because most of the trauma that occurred in my life happened in Chicago during the first 18 years of life, and so I think it was the first time that I ever said no, no, I didn't enjoy it.
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Like it was not enjoyable Fearing death, just walking down the street being shot at multiple times between the ages of 8 to 12, having jungle gym collapse on me or my chest being rushed to the hospital, broken ribs, just molestation in my family, in the church, like all of the things that you know, you read about or maybe see in Lifetime movies or on the news, like being the actual recipient of those things.
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It does something to you.
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And so in high school I got really depressed and started having not suicidal ideations but this thinking about ways to self-harm.
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And instead of taking that on me, I took it out on another young lady at my school and I bullied her to the point where she actually started having suicidal ideations.
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And one day she came up to me and she said I want you to know that I forgive you.
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And I was like what she says?
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You bullied me so bad, you talked about me so poorly that I didn't think I deserved to live.
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She said but that's a lie.
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God loves me and he loves you too and I forgive you.
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And when she said it initially, I was just like you're weird, cause I'm 16, 17 years old.
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I'm like you're weird.
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That's my response for that year Cause I didn't want to take accountability for anything that she said.
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But when I went home I bawled like a baby.
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I bawled.
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I'm like I.
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I know I thought I knew who God was, I said, but I didn't know that I, my heart had gotten that dark to the point where I was bullying people to the point where they could, they would actually consider taking their life because of the words that I said.
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And so I was pre-law.
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Before that and after that experience I was like I don't know what she has, what type of relationship with God that she has, but whatever, that is like, I need that.
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I need.
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I need to be able to walk up to my offenders, to walk up to those who've wronged me, who've sinned against me, and say with that type of conviction, I forgive you.
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Like I was, like I that's, I don't have that yet.
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And so I changed my major to theology and God just opened all sorts of doors.
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Um, I got a full ride to St John's from the volunteerism because I hid myself in just service after I started going really dark.
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Um, I had read a.
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Um, after I started going really dark, I had read a quote one day that said if you want to find yourself, lose yourself in service to others.
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And so that's all I did.
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My high school and God blessed it.
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I got a full ride to St John's.
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I came out to New York by myself alone, 18, no family, no friends, knew no one.
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And this is where God revealed who he was to me, and I would say about maybe four or five months after I got to St John's, I gave my life to Jesus and I haven't looked back since.
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It has not been perfection, you know, like at any point any step of the way, but one thing that I do is forgetting what is behind and pressing onto what is ahead, to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus called me forth.
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And so I realized that words had power.
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And if bad words, hurtful words, hateful words had the power to cause someone to when I take their life, imagine what would happen if I spoke the word of God.
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Imagine what would happen if I spoke positivity.
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Imagine what would happen.
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And so that's what I use my words for now, and that's part of the nine books that I've helped write Just wanting to spread positive words, life-giving words, wanting to spread the word of God, and so that's kind of my mission now.
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And so I learned over maybe like the first 15 years of discipleship that I had a way with words.
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But it wasn't until like the last three years that God revealed to me like hey, you're to be an author, this is what I've called you to do.
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And now I'm like all right, I'm going to write books, but I'm also going to help other people write books, and so I'm a productivity coach.
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The word is productivity coach.
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I know I can't say that.
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But it's in service to help people gain more time to do what matters most.
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Yeah.
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And so I work with Christians, but I also work with educators and aspiring authors to help them write faster so they can go out and share the gospel, share the good news, explore their gifts, unleash their talents to bring more help, more positivity, more light into the world.
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I think we waste a lot of time on mindless menial tasks when a lot of it can either be deleted or outsourced, some of it automated but we waste a lot of time, and that in my teenage years and just all of the moments where my literally my life flashed before me.
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I remember the last time I was shot at and this was one of the last times that I hung out at night with a particular group of students, like teenage young people.
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I saw the shooter across the street and I saw the flash of light.
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The first time he pulled the trigger and he shot a lot.
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He emptied the entire clip.
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But the first shot he pulled the trigger and he shot a lot.
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He shot, he emptied the entire clip, but the first shot I saw the light.
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I was like I never want to see that again.
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Like that, I, I never, I never want to experience seeing a gun being fired in my direction.
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Like I, I never want to see that again, and so I had made it.
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I was like like when I leave Chicago, I'm not coming back and I go back to visit because I'm not heartless, right, like my entire family's there, but to live, yeah, nah.
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Yeah, it's too many triggers, too much trauma that happened and it's weird how we relate that stuff into what happens to us.
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Like when I even see a hospital I go back into.
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Okay, this is the last thing that has happened to me.
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Therefore, I don't want to go again.
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So yeah, it's just mind reckless thing.
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So sorry guys, I've never had to do this on a podcast.
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But my son let in the wrong doggy so I got to text him get dog.
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So all right, but yeah, and going back to, I can only imagine when, oh my gosh, the feeling of seeing the shooter.
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That's what gets me, because I mean I only have it from medical, like okay, you're going to go, but did that sense come over?
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You, like this could be it?
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What are you going to do?
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I think you know when people talk about fight or flight?
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Yes, because it wasn't the first time I had been shot at.
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You know when people talk about fight or flight?
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Yes, because it wasn't the first time I had been shot at.
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I didn't have the sense like this is it.
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I'm going, my brain was run and that's what it's always been.
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I've never been that person where, like I freeze, or I panic, or I'm all sensibility, all emotion takes a backseat and now we're in survival mode.
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And so I'm realizing as an educator because I'm a teacher, I teach high school and I've been doing so for the last maybe like 15 years in high school, 20 years overall in education.
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I'm like I I teach in high school because that was the turning point for me.
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That was that I felt unseen, unloved, powerless, right, powerless, right.
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And so in the moment when I start feeling those things again because that's what near-death experiences bring they're traumatic experiences that make you feel powerless, helpless, scared, and so whenever I get those feelings now, my initial response is that same fight or flight, and that's more so what I'm fighting now.
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But to answer your question, I I did not in that moment, because I had been shot at multiple times prior to that.
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So I'm not.
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I'm not thinking this is it.
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I'm not, I'm not going to survive this.
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All I'm thinking is I must run and I'm with my cousin who had frozen.
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She was stoic, she was not.
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Yeah, she had never been shot at.
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This was her first experience.
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And she's older, right, and she's hanging out with these crowds of people who are into these things.
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I, legit, every time I was shot I was a bystander.
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I was not engaged in drugs, alcohol, gang activity, nothing, nothing.
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Alcohol, uh, gang activity, nothing, nothing.
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Literally walking down the street minding my business.
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This time I was hanging out with a cousin who had become affiliated with the wrong crowd.
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So each point I'm an innocent bystander.
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So I I don't like I'm not walking around, thinking my life choices, this could be it, right, that wasn't that.
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It was.
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I'm 12, I'm down the street from my aunt's house and I'm sitting on a porch talking to humans 12, 14, 16, 15.
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So, to look across, because I heard a noise and I'm like that sounds familiar, and I turn okay, that looks familiar, right, like all these familiarities from prior experiences of being shot, and I said guys, there's someone in the bush.
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I literally thought I said, guys, there's somebody in the bush and I think he has a gun.
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And they were like what are you talking about?
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You're crazy.
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It's dark outside.
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How can you see in the bush?
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I'm like, listen.
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I trust what you got.
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I'm like there's all right.
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And so I got up and I slowly started walking back toward the back of in the back, toward the garage, and they were like.
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They told my cousin, like hey, your cousin, something's weird with her.
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Like what is she talking about?
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There's nobody.
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And all you heard was shots.
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Oh wow, telling me there's nobody.
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And I grabbed her arm because I was walking back toward the garage.
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I grabbed her arm and I yanked her off the porch and I ran full speed.
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I don't, she was barely keeping up.
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I said, well, I'm, I know what I, I know what I saw.
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I'm very clear, I know what I saw.
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Yeah, I know what I saw.
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You guys can stay here, you, you do you?
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I'm going to take my relative and we're going to go, yeah.
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So when we went back to see like the bullet holes outlining the exact place where she sat, and I'm like that's God, like that's the sermon, like had I not grabbed her as soon as I heard the first shot, she wouldn't be here.
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You know so.
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But I I don't think in any of those experiences the first thought has ever been this is it, this is my life, like I'm going to die.
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I don't not even car crashes that I've been in.
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I've never um.
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Because I I guess this is odd I just felt like God put me here for something and because I didn't know what that thing was.
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During those, those near death moments, I was just like cause I didn't even do whatever I was supposed to be doing.
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I don't know what it is yet, but I ain't done it.
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So See, god has a reason for everybody.
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I mean, I keep coming back for some race.
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I have doctors going.
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We don't know why you're still here, and that's the honest truth.
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I've been through every surgery.
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I have another one coming up too and God forbid, you know, they can actually find it.
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But talking about instinct, I mean, it's nothing like knowing where a shooter is, but sometimes I don't know how this happened.
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I was coming home one night and it was a big field, huge field, and it was like 11 o'clock at night and it's like I thought I saw something in the middle of the field.
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So I turned my car around, parked it, went and walked in the field and this puppy ran up to me, covered in stickers, limping, and I just happened to be right next to a 24 hour vet Took it in, it was chipped and the owner was called and the dog was healed.
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But I don't know what made me see a dog driving at 11 o'clock in a field, out of all things.
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But it's just weird.
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And then you know, fight or flight.
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I haven't gone through that only Well, I grew up with epilepsy, so I've seen it in different ways.
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But I'm going to be doing probably a podcast on this.
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But long story short fight or flight, I did get roofied at the place I go sing at.
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The sad thing is the guy told me he did it to me and I said and he told me the reason why he did it and I was like why in the world would you do this?
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And bam, I woke up but I didn't know how I got to, where I got to.
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I had no idea.
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So I guess I got a sleep aid mixed with my wine or something and bam gone.
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But they said my friend who said well, you left before karaoke.
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The KJ was walking in with the speaker.
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We said we only come to hear you sing and you were just gone.
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Now, in epilepsy, when I have a seizure, I get a thing called Aurora.
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So I know before it comes I will try to hide the dots.
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Not always good, but I guess it was the same thing.
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I didn't know what happened to me, but I knew to run.
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I just didn't know where I was running and I did think, oh my gosh, this is it, this is my life, this is gone and it was the scariest feeling.
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So no, but also I want to backtrack a little bit because I think people may want to know.
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I've always wanted to touch on this topic and it may be a little different me asking, but I got to take a chance.
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You said in the beginning of this podcast you were the bully.
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Okay, so I am just trying to think okay, you went through a lot of traumatic stuff and it was hurtful to you and you had to lash out.
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Is that the most common thing when kids are bullied?
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You know, through school, that's what's happened to another person, instead of a person just shutting down completely and not saying anything and not being a bully, that just stay quiet so I actually did a combination of both.
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Um, I'm gonna say the year prior, right after the um sexual trauma, I stopped socializing.
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I watched the same one movie Pretty Woman every day after school.
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Legit every day.
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Memorized.
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Every day.
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Yeah.
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Every day, and then I stopped socializing with friends so I would go to the cafeteria.
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