March 5, 2025
From Chaos to Calm: Practical Tips for Busy Moms
Dive into the complexities of motherhood with our guest Sally Bisbee, a life coach dedicated to helping mothers find balance and prioritize their well-being. This episode explores Sally's journey from a career in psychology to becoming a successful entrepreneur while managing a home and three children. We discuss the challenges and triumphs of motherhood, focusing on how to simplify life through effective systems and routines.
Sally shares valuable insights into the importance of self-care and the necessity of asking for help, emphasizing that taking time for oneself ultimately makes for better moms and partners. With practical tips on household management and a candid conversation about her craft business, this episode offers inspiration and actionable strategies for those navigating similar paths.
Whether you're a soon-to-be mom or a seasoned parent, join us for an enlightening discussion that reaffirms your identity beyond caregiving. Ready to reclaim your time and happiness? Tune in, engage, and take the first steps toward a balanced life today! And don't forget to check out Sally's resources, including free workshops designed to help mothers declutter their lives.
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Love & Light - Keep Hope Alive
Chapters
03:15 - Introduction and Episode Overview
20:27 - Meet Special Guest Sally Bisbee
50:03 - Unique Guest Book Ideas for Weddings
01:31:18 - Life on Record: A Keepsake Business
08:41:11 - Sally's Journey into Life Coaching
11:21:02 - Resources and Programs Offered
Transcript
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Hello and welcome to Keep Hope Alive podcast.
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We have another great show for you today.
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I got Sally Bisbee here with us and she's a certified life coach and she has her own craft business which we're going to be diving into everything that she does.
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Welcome, I'm so glad you're on our show.
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Thank you so much for having me.
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Oh, yes, definitely.
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So right before we get started, I always ask the people I interview this one question and I promise to make it fun.
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So let's say, you and I had a best friend who was getting married and we're going into the ceremony part and to the right there is something for us to sign to let them know we were there.
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What would they, what would we be signing?
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Yes, I would say a big picture frame that has a huge mat on it with an opening for a picture from the wedding, but just to be able to sign, to give them a keepsake to take home and put on their wall and remember all the people that were at their wedding, and just such a fun keepsake that they could display someplace proudly.
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Yes, I've seen those too and I love them.
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They're beautiful and I think as a photographer, I love that idea.
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So one of our biggest sponsors at Keep Hope Alive is Life on Record and what they do.
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They take place of anything that you can use as like a guest book or the frame or Jenga pieces.
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But what they have is a vintage rotary phone that your guests can pick up on the phone and here's my phone Just leave a message.
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You got five minutes, 10 minutes, 30 minutes, but if it's for a wedding, I suggest no, they make it pretty quick.
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Right next to it they put out a sign with a QR code and if your guests didn't want to use the phone and leave a message like either before or after, they can scan that code and leave the message there as well.
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So what they do is collect all these messages Congratulations on your big day.
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Or maybe it's like a groom's man just saying, hey, it's about time you put a ring on the finger.
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I've been waiting and waiting and waiting on the finger.
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You know I've been waiting and waiting and waiting.
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So they're collecting all these you know welcoming messages and congratulations and they'll either burn it on a 12 inch vinyl record or they have these keepsake speakers.
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I named them the little boom box.
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They're really cute and they're personalized.
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It's the cutest thing in the world.
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So definitely.
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With that, their plans only start at $99 and you get the phone number.
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You've got to return the phone, but the phone number for one year.
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So if it was an event like a wedding, I always say I would have everybody call back before the year's up and say happy anniversary to you.
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But these can be used for anything graduations, big family reunion events, corporate events.
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I know I used one for sports.
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One of the kids broke the leg and I had the players use the number to call and say I hope you feel better.
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So there's so many different options to visit more on Life on Record Go to wwwlifeonrecordcom.
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All right, so let's get started.
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I think you are the start of season 22.
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So that's always a good number.
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Season 22, number one.
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I love it.
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I love it, yes.
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So my question is who is Sally Bisbee?
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Let me tell you a little bit about myself.
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I love that 22.
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I actually my oldest daughter is going to be 22 in two weeks.
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Um so happy birthday, thank you.
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Thank you.
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Crazy to think I've been a mom for 22 years.
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So, um 23,.
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I get it.
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Okay, yeah, it goes, it goes.
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She made me a grandma this year.
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Oh, bless your heart, bless your heart, I tell mine.
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Please don't do that, because I also have a nine and a six-year-old, so okay.
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I got a 12-year-old.
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You're just like me, okay, yeah, the gap.
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Oh bless your heart.
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Well, young grandmas are fun.
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That is my mom.
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She was a young grandma I had, I had mine young and it was the best thing ever.
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So just you know, you got energy right For that grandbaby.
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Yes, I do, I love it.
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I love it.
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So, yeah, so a little bit about me.
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I married, have three kids, almost 22, nine and six.
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I went to college for psychology.
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My whole life plan was to become a psychologist.
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I love to help people.
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That has been my life.
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Mission is just to help people.
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And while I was in school decided that it turned out I couldn't actually listen to people complain about their problems for the rest of my life and so we took a little detour from the psychology thing.
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Uh, although that is like weaved through every thing I've done in my life and so, um, or, you know, I've done.
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I've done all sorts of different things, career wise, when I had my daughter, my senior year of college, big surprise, best thing ever to happen to me, me, um, and I think everything I have in my life is because of the way it happened and and I have a fabulous life, so I love it.
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Um, and so I nannied for seven years and took her with me, which was great.
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I went, worked in corporate America for a few years in HR, which was fine, fine, met some wonderful people, realized corporate's like not my life.
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And so about 10 years ago yeah, well, 10 years ago I started a craft business, which is, oops, I forgot.
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Oh cool, okay, where I'm sitting is in my craft room right now.
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So 10 years ago I started a craft business, simply Selly Creations.
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I really specialize in custom apparel, so making shirts, anything that's got words on it.
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I don't even have anything laying around me here, but I make pretty much anything that you can put words on Cups, signs, little makeup bags.
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That's what I'm looking for right now for Keep Hope Alive.
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I'm looking for somebody to make the shirts.
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Yeah, I can do that and I ship all over and I run it all through Facebook, word of mouth and repeat customers.
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It's just been a business that has just grown and grown because I make a good quality product for an affordable price and, you know, great service, all that stuff, and it's a passion of mine, it's my, like, happy place.
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This is, you know, my craft room area that I'm sitting in and I just love being down here and having that creative outlet.
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And then nine years ago, when our second was born, I quit my corporate job and stayed home to run an in-home daycare.
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So for the last eight and a half years I ran an in-home daycare, which was an adventure, to say the least, but it allowed me to be home with my two little kids while they were little, and also my my oldest at the time was in school, and so I got to be here for her too, which, you know, having an older one like they still need you just as much, if not more, when when they're that age and navigating all that stuff.
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Wait a minute, mine only wants me for money, that's a lot of what they need you for still Right, so I don't know about that.
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So I don't know about that.
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And so the plan always was that when my youngest, when she went to the kindergarten, that I needed to figure out what was the next step in my entrepreneurial adventure, and so about I don't know, a year or two ago, I came across this, the concept of life coaching, and I was like, oh my goodness, like that is like right in line with psychology and what I want to do.
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But the premise of coaching is really a forward focus thing.
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It's really helping people create a life that they want to live.
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How do they look forward and create that life?
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Where?
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Being a psychologist is a lot of dealing with past trauma and past issues and you have to deal with that.
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I think everyone needs to deal with the past in order to move forward.
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But for me, I want the happy part of Like how do I work with people who are looking to like better their life and make make their life better?
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And so I was like that is what I'm going to do.
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And so over the past year of you know, I've joined a program that you know is teaches coaches how to become coaches and become coaches and really just worked on stuff in my specialty areas working with moms.
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My passion is for moms.
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I know, you know, having gone through the gamut of mom life for 22 years and having college age kid and a kindergartner and a third grader and just doing it, all the stresses of motherhood and the mental load we take on, the constant like burnout we feel, the never having enough time for ourselves, all those things.
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And so now I work one-on-one with moms and really just help them eliminate unnecessary stress from their life, create systems and routines to make their life run more smoothly, so that keeping up on things like laundry, which is like the number one thing I hear is like I can't keep up on laundry.
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Like you know, there's, there's ways.
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Like, for me, I do one load of laundry every day.
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Is it fun?
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No, there's nothing fun about it, but I do it so that I don't spend all weekend doing laundry.
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So just helping moms create systems and routines to get life running more smoothly and then also giving moms that permission that they need to take care of themselves.
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It took me a long time I will say like probably 20-ish years to be able to walk away from my kids without feeling guilty.
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I mean, I literally have based every career move basically I've done around my kids.
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I was a nanny so I could be with my daughter.
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I ran a daycare so I could be with all three of my kids.
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I'm home with them, I'm like I can leave them and go do my own thing and be with my friends without feeling guilty and it's it's a wonderful feeling.
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And so I really just work with moms now to remind them that you know, as as cliche as all those things are, you know you can't pour from an empty cup and all this stuff, but it really is important that us, as moms, take care of ourselves and because when we do that, we're a better mom, we're a better wife, we're a better friend, all those things.
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And so that is really my like area of passion.
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Um, I also this past September, because I thought two uh businesses wasn't enough, I started a third business.
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So I also own a home organizing business helping essentially the same people that I coach uh, overwhelmed moms really just step in and help them organize their home, and so that has been really fun.
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That's.
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I'm super type A I love to organize.
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It's always been my thing.
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And I thought, why not, Like I got I got time, I might as well, uh, add this in.
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So now I am running three businesses, which is, you know, a constant juggle, but it's, it's fun and I like it and I get to help people in all different capacities and it's an adventure like every day.
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So that that is a little bit about me.
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Oh, wow.
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So do you still schedule your me time with the three?
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jobs I do.
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I'm really really good at it.
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Um, you know, I always I kind of laugh sometimes and people are like I don't, I don't have any time.
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I'm like, okay, let's talk about it.
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Yeah, I have three businesses, I have three kids, we have a busy schedule.
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Our kids are in sports.
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My husband is a very avid outdoorsman.
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He something in my eye he fishes and hunts and plays poker and he has a whole life outside of me, which is actually why I married him, because I'm a very, like independent person and I was a single mom, for we met when my daughter was seven, you know.
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So for that first seven years it was just her and I.
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And I'm like I'm used to having this whole old world without somebody else in.
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So I needed somebody that had a life outside of me, and so he's gone a lot doing his thing, which I love and support.
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But I it's very important to me to plan like at least one night a week that I go out with girlfriends.
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That is like I'm super extroverted, that is like my happy, like it's where I recharge myself, where I remember that like I'm Sally, like I'm, I'm not just a mom all the time, and that's.
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That's another thing I really work with a lot with the moms I work with is like being a mom is amazing and like for me and I think a lot of moms would say, like it's the best job you're ever going to have.
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Of course, it's also the hardest, and I think so many of us get so wrapped up in the fact of thinking of being a mom as like our whole identity, when it's just a part of who we are, and so remembering that we are more than a mom and it's so important to remember that in someday, someday and I'm sure you can attest to this with a 23 year old that has a baby that they don't always leave right away, but like, and I don't know if she lives at home or not, but you know, okay, well, good, that's awesome, but you know some someday they're going to be out of the house, like they're still going to need us.
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But I want to think like I want to remember who I am and what I love to do when they're out of the house and, um, you know, another thing I focus on with moms too is that the marriage aspect of really you know, something my husband and I focus on is, you know, it's't ever want to be roommates Like we need to make sure that our marriage is at the forefront, that we continue to have a good marriage and spend our time together so that, when, god willing, these kids leave our house someday, that you know we still love and enjoy spending our time together.
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Yeah, and that's so important.
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It's important and people do lose tendency of that and pushing them to the right direction.
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I started a relationship coach, like doing courses, so I'm going to see how that goes and everything.
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But definitely I love what you do because I'm a single mom and you know, would I love to find love again?
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Yes, but it is really hard in today's world.
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But I was working and I work all week and I want it one day now, due to me.
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You know, being single, I did have to move in with my mom.
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So this is leading to a question I love my mom but, oh my gosh, I'm 47 with a curfew, and so my nickname was Cinderella.
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And I would go do karaoke and karaoke was helping my soul and giving me that like stress relief.
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I could go on through the day.
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And then I learned when I signed up for choir at church it was even more powerful and bigger and I was like, oh, this is giving me my me time.
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You know, I love because it's just me and my son right now and my dog.
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So I traded one parent for another parent.
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Now I'm in Oklahoma but I'm trying to start a whole new life out here.
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But having that me time is so important because it did give me more energy to take care of my son had to hear it and maybe it's just the older generation I would get scolded not to go and have any fun that I am a parent now and I should be home 24 seven and taking care of him.
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And I was like I get that and I understand that.
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But I also feel that for my own self-care that I need to have a couple hours to myself one time, maybe even two times out of the week, that I can regain focus and move forward.
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And so I want to tell any of our listeners she's absolutely right, because maybe back in the day that's how it was, and they learned from their parents.
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It has to be done.
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And like hearing, you should have no life.
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Maybe that's what my mom went through, but is my decision?
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No, no, no, no, no, so yeah, and I think you know, having been a single mom for a long time, I think even more so as a single mom, you know like right now I get breaks because it's so easy for me to be like, hey, I'm going to run to the not that the grocery store, you know, I'm going to run to the mall and just go shop for an hour or two and my husband's like, go, it's fine, it's, there's an, it's a no brainer, they're his kids too, he stays home with him, it's totally fine.
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So it's easy for me.
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And that was like one of the biggest changes when I met him and we got married and all of a sudden I was like, oh my gosh, I'm going to run someplace with no kid with me.
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And you know, and I think, married or not it is, it definitely is a generational thing, it is and it's a societal thing too, of that you know, assumption and stuff, that mom's like you become a mom and that's what you are.
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You are a mom and your kids need to be your number one, and all that stuff.
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And you know I always laugh because anybody that knows me like knows my kids are my number one, like I, again, I based my whole career choices being a nanny, running a daycare I always tell people like being a daycare lady was never my dream.
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It wasn't.
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But being home with my kids was, while also still earning an income, because I am so independent I was like I can't not have an income, but I think that you know, I think it is so important for us to remember and and and having three kids.
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My kids are girl, boy, girl and and so I really think for my girls, but even for my son too, that someday when he's married, and I want him for his wife, I always think I want to be the example for my kids that they know that me taking time away actually does, like you said, it makes me a better mom, like I.
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Last night I went to a girlfriend's house, just hung out, had dinner, helped her move some stuff around that she needed help with, and I came home like I just feel like I'm a little recharged, I'm refreshed.
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I took time away from anybody calling my name or needing me or all that stuff.
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It's all you know, good and great and being a mom.
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You know I'll be the first to say being a mom is amazing.
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I love it.
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It is, you know I'll be the first to say being a mom is amazing.
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I love it.
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It is.
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You know, it was my life goal.
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Like when I became a young single mom, people like, how do you do it?
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I'm like you just do it Like I.
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My daughter was amazing.
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All I wanted in life was to be a mom, so it was.
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It was no like sweat off my back.
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It was amazing.
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But I mean I always tell people like life, life got more as I had more kids um, three were definitely done, like our youngest is our last um.
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And for me that's really like when things started to change, where I just felt like I would.
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I would wake up in the morning and just feel so overwhelmed like how am I going to tackle this day?
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I already behind on stuff.
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I, you know, I know I have told people it was when my kids were two, five and 17.
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And you know, a toddler preschool he wasn't quite.
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He's a October birthday, so at five he wasn't in kindergarten yet.
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And then a teenager and I was in the throes of like teenage years, the throes of little kid years.
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I was like I don't have a minute for myself and that was like really it was about four years ago, when all this started that I thought, okay, I'm going to go through my own journey of like, figuring out how to eliminate any unnecessary stress in my life.
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I'm like, what do I do to like?
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What am I bringing on that I don't need?
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I got rid of all unnecessary stress.
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I realized this is another thing most moms are not good at doing is asking for help.
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Asking for help is okay.
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Asking for help is a sign of strength and not weakness.
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And you know there's so many like cliche things, but I think we all know it and sometimes moms just need the permission to hear.
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My husband is wonderful and very involved and I'm lucky because I know that unfortunately, not all husbands are like that but he is very, very willing to help.
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But he's a dude Like I have to actually like, tell him my needs and tell him like okay, like we you know, once in a while we sit and have a talk.
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So we had a talk a couple of years ago and I was, like here's the deal.
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Like, these are our kids, this is our family, we we need to like, split things up a little better.
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This is our family, we need to like, split things up a little better.
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He's like okay, what can I take over?
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What can I do?
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So, like I don't put away laundry anymore, I do all the laundry.
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He puts away all the laundry.
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I don't do dishes anymore, he handles all that.
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There's just things that like I it on and we feel like we need to.
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And you know, I was lucky enough to be raised by a mom that had her life outside of us kids, but she was a stay-at-home mom and my dad ran a very successful, busy business, so he was gone a lot.
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So my mom did everything.
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And so you kind of like you know, do what you know.
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And I was like, wait while I'm home.
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I'm not a stay at home mom.
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Like I work a full-time job and I've had two jobs.
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You know I've ran my, my daycare and my craft business simultaneously for the past nine years.
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Now I have three companies.
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You're like, no, just cause my husband's gone at work all day Doesn't mean he shouldn't have to come home and help and he's willing.
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Why do I not ask?
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So learning to ask for help?
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Um, and then you know, even as a single mom, just it's sometimes you have to just ignore the comments that people say and you have to know like what, what is right for me, what, what feels right, going to karaoke, going and singing in your church choir where that like fills your cup is amazing, and those things I think you know are setting a good example for both your kids and you know you get to come back and show up as a better mom, which they see too, which is such a good thing.
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Yeah, yeah, and it's weird, as a single mom and getting out there and trying to date and stuff.
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It's so funny because what I keep behind me I can't believe I'm sharing this is like well, this person helped me grocery shop and bring in the groceries and I can put it up.
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It's those little things because as we get older I have back aches.
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I got this, but it's just.
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You know, I'm looking for a best friend to enjoy life with, but I have the mindset my kids are getting older and, just like you said, when my last one's out, I still want to have it afloat, you know, be happy, enjoy life, plan more trips, you know, but always be there on the side.
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So, and then it's like what if I don't meet anybody?
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It's still focusing on my kids.
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You know, what can I do to help them achieve their potential and their goals?
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You know, my son wants to be a pro football player.
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Okay, so he goes.
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I'm going to have a mansion on a beach and a high rise.
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And I go high rise and he goes I love the sound of rain.
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I'm only going to stay there when it rains.
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And I was like, do I get to live in the mansion?
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And he's like yes, and I was like I can take care of the kids.
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I'm fine hanging out with you for the rest of my life, then.
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